Tracee Ellis Ross Slams Pressure to Get Married and Have Kids: 'Society Spoon-Feeds It to You'

"I would still love all of that, but what am I going to do, just sit around waiting?" the actress said of a future with a husband and children

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Tracee Ellis Ross is perfectly content living life as a single woman without kids.

In a new interview with Marie Clare, the 48-year-old actress opened up about the societal pressures placed on women to get married and have children.

When asked by the outlet if she once dreamed of a life with a large family, Ross said, "Well, how could you not?"

"Our society spoon-feeds it to you," the Blackish star said. "I used to put myself to sleep dreaming of my wedding."

Added Ross: "And I would still love all of that, but what am I going to do, just sit around waiting? Shut up. I've got so many things to do."

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Last year, Ross made similar statements when she covered the May 2020 issue of Porter.

"I wish I had known there were other choices, not just about how I could be living, but how I could feel about the way my life was," Ross told the publication. "I was raised by society to dream of my wedding, but I wish I had been dreaming of my life."

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"There are so many ways to curate happiness, find love and create a family, and we don't talk about them," she continued. "It creates so much shame and judgment."

"People misinterpret being happily single as not wanting to be in a relationship. Of course I want to be in a relationship, but what am I going to do? Spend all the time that I'm not [in one] moping around?" Ross argued. "No. I'm going to live my life to the fullest and I'm going to be happy right here, where I am."

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While chatting with Marie Claire, the Girlfriends alum also spoke about smashing beauty standards and loving her natural hair.

"Learning to love my hair in a world that doesn't mirror that celebration has been a form of both resistance and the claiming of my identity, my selfhood, my legacy, my ancestral lines, the history that I come from," Ross said.

Ross voiced in pride in all she's achieved with Pattern Beauty, her two-year-old haircare company focused on curly and coily textures.

The star said balancing the CEO role and work as an actress can be stressful, "but I have to remind myself to stay connected to my heart and my gut."

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