Tori and Dean: 14 Years, 5 Kids and All the Ups and Downs In Between
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott, who share five children, tied the knot in 2006
Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott met in Ottawa, Canada, while filming the TV movie Mind Over Murder. Both were married to other people at the time: McDermott to his then-wife Mary Jo Eustace, and Spelling to her then-husband Charlie Shanian.
Less than a month after finalizing her divorce from Shanian, and following McDermott's split from Eustace, the stars got married in a private ceremony in Fiji on May 7.
On March 13, Spelling gave birth to the couple's first child, Liam. That same year, Spelling and McDermott's first reality television series, Tori & Dean: Inn Love, premiered on Oxygen. The show followed the couple as they ran a bed and breakfast, Chateau La Rue, in Fallbrook, California.
The McDermott family welcomed a second child and first daughter, Stella, on June 9. They also moved back to Los Angeles after their stint as hotel-runners, and Tori & Dean: Inn Love got rebranded as Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood.
The couple renewed their vows in Beverly Hills in May, but had a scary moment two months later when Dean was admitted to the hospital with a punctured and collapsed lung after a dirt bike crash.
Spelling gave birth to the couple's third child and second daughter, Hattie. One month later, she conceived their fourth child. A spin-off of Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood premiered on Oxygen, Tori & Dean: sTORIbook Weddings, which chronicled the couple's venture into wedding planning. Spelling also opened up a boutique, InvenTORI, in Sherman Oaks, California.
Pregnant with her fourth child, Spelling was hospitalized for three months due to placenta previa and excessive bleeding. She gave birth to son Finn in October, but was forced to undergo emergency surgery in the days after her C-section.
There are rumors of trouble in Spelling and McDermott's marriage, which Spelling refuted. "It's just sad that our actual happiness would probably be deemed boring," she said. "I can handle [media scrutiny.] I always have. But don't do it to a man that has done nothing but loved me and our children. He has stood by me during the good times and held my hand through the darkest moments of my life." However, trouble did come later that year: The couple's show, Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood, got cancelled and at the end of the year, McDermott cheated on Spelling.
McDermott publicly admitted to cheating; when it happened, she was home with their four children, celebrating the holidays. In January, he checked himself into rehab to "address some health and personal issues," he said in a statement to PEOPLE. The infidelity was addressed later in the year on the family's new reality show, True Tori. "I feel shame. I've never felt shame before," he said of his transgressions. "You were at a Christmas event, and I was f––king around. That's disgusting. That's disgusting." Later in the year, Spelling confirmed that the two were working through their issues. "It's something that's going to take time to get through," she told PEOPLE.
The couple continued to work on their marriage, and according to McDermott, things improved. "What we went through publicly, I learned a lot, I wouldn't do it again, at the end of the day we're together, we're happy and we're working on our relationship and we have a beautiful family and a beautiful life," he said. "It all worked out in the end." He also expressed a desire to take their relationship off television.
McDermott proposed to Spelling for the third time during a family trip to Paris, and in October, they announced that they were expecting their fifth child. "The doctor said that considering everything that happened the last time, this is a miracle baby that Tori got pregnant and that it's okay," McDermott told PEOPLE.
The reality star and her husband are slapped with a tax lien by the state of California. The married couple owed a tax lien for $259,108.23 for unpaid state taxes from 2014, according to court documents obtained by PEOPLE in July.
In March, Spelling cleared up reports of financial trouble after credit card company American Express sued her in January for failing to pay her outstanding balance of $37,981.97 since summer 2015.
The mother of four explained that the rumors started after she wrote her 2013 book, Spelling It Like It Is. “I thought I was being relatable, talking about how celebrities go through financial struggles, too, we make mistakes, too,” she told PEOPLE. “We’re not perfect, we have made a lot of choices financially with real estate that didn’t work out … and that just escalated into this story about financial struggles, bankruptcy. To this day that haunts me!”
She added, “We’re not bankrupt, we’re not struggling, we’re fine!”
Three years after McDermott's cheating scandal, Spelling got candid about the new phase of the couple's relationship, which they reached following the birth of son Beau.
“I feel like Beau is really the pillar of the rebirth of our relationship because our relationship had to crumble for it to be rebuilt and it was really important that we just start it over,” Spelling told PEOPLE in December.
On March 1, police responded to a "disturbance" call at Spelling's Los Angeles home, PEOPLE confirmed. LAPD officer Rosario Herrera said police received a "call for service" at 7:17 a.m. to Spelling's Woodland Hills address.
Officer Drake Madison told PEOPLE that the situation ended up being a “domestic incident” and that “no crime” was committed. He could not confirm who made the call. According to the audio dispatch call obtained by The Blast and TMZ, the issue involved a "female" with a possible "mental illness."
TMZ reported that Spelling called police because she thought there was someone breaking into her house, but it turned out to be her husband coming home.
A source told PEOPLE that things had been tough on the Beverly Hills, 90210 alum. “She internalizes a lot of her anxiety and she knows it’s not healthy for her. Of course she’s going to get to a breaking point eventually,” the insider added. “Tori and Dean have their ups and downs, but they love each other and family is most important to both of them.”
According to TMZ, McDermott called the cops to check up on his wife after she left their house on March 7. Three Ventura County Sheriff’s units reportedly surrounded a building in Thousand Oaks, California, at around 9:45 a.m., while Spelling was inside. The outlet also has video of McDermott standing outside the office, holding the couple’s then-1-year-old baby.
TMZ reported that McDermott sounded the alarm when Spelling left home with at least one of their kids, though it remained unclear why he was so concerned about her wellbeing. Deputies reportedly located the Beverly Hills, 90210 alum at the doctor’s office, spoke to her and determined she and their kids were okay. Because no crime had been committed, no further action was taken.
The couple celebrated their 14th anniversary together by posting loving tributes to their respective Instagram accounts in honor of their 14th wedding anniversary.
Alongside a throwback photo, captured in 2006, Tori began, "I can’t believe today is our 14 year anniversary! This pic of @imdeanmcdermott and I was taken just 6 months after we got married on May 7, 2006."
"I was preggers with our first babe Liam. Now, 14 years later we have 5 beautiful kiddos together. Liam, Stella, Hattie, Finn, and Beau are true creations of our love and passion for each other. Beautiful blends of the two of us. And, I have my bonus son Jack who I love & adore!"
The actress ended her tribute by thanking her husband. "Thank you @imdeanmcdermott for being my chosen human in this lifetime. My partner in crime and my best friend," she wrote. "You are an amazing papa bear and I love that you always have my back no matter what! Thank you for loving me and I promise I am still fun! Life just gets stressful sometimes but thru it all we have each other. One day we will get back to Fiji where we became husband and wife and started our journey of a lifetime. I love you with all my heart and soul."
Dean also showed his wife some love on their anniversary, posting a clip of the couple's 2008 "In Love" music video remix.
"We’ve been through a lot in 14 years and we’re still going strong. Like the song says 'look how far we’ve come after all,'" Dean captioned the post. "Happy Anniversary Babe. 'I wouldn’t wanna live without ya' #happyanniversary."