Tom Sandoval Says He 'Deserves Your Anger and Disappointment' After Cheating Scandal: 'Sorry'

"This was a very personal thing," the Vanderpump Rules star said in a statement on Saturday

Tom Sandoval has broken his silence amid reports that he cheated on longtime girlfriend Ariana Madix with his Vanderpump Rules costar Raquel Leviss.

On Saturday, the musician, reality star and restaurateur shared a statement on Instagram about the split, asking fans to direct their anger away from his loved ones, including cast mate and business partner Tom Schwartz.

"Hey, I fully understand and deserve ur anger and disappointment towards me, but please leave Schwartz my friends and family out of this situation…," Sandoval, 39, wrote, noting that Schwartz "specifically only found out about this very recently, and most definitely did not condone my actions."

"This was a very personal thing," Sandoval stated.

PEOPLE reported on Friday that Sandoval and Madix, 37, had split after 9 years together. Their relationship fell apart, sources said, on Wednesday night when Madix — while supporting her then-boyfriend's band, Tom Sandoval & the Most Extras, perform in Los Angeles — saw inappropriate messages between Leviss and Sandoval on his phone.

Tom Sandoval and Ariana Madix attend the Los Angeles Special Screening of Lionsgate's "Midnight In The Switchgrass" at Regal LA Live on July 19, 2021 in Los Angeles, California
Tom Sandoval and Ariana Madix. Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic

The secret romance caught Madix by surprise. "This has been going on for upwards of 6 months — all the while, Tom was sleeping next to Ariana in bed," one source told PEOPLE. "She was completely blindsided by this; devastated doesn't even scratch the surface of how she feels."

"This is someone she thought she knew; someone she planned to spend the rest of her life with. You can't even put into words that betrayal," the source added.

Also on Wednesday, on the other side of the country, Leviss, 28, made an appearance with Scheana Shay on Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen where she defended her decision to kiss Schwartz on the show despite his divorce from her friend, Katie Maloney.

"I'm just trying to live my life and I'm sorry if that offends people, but it's not going to stop me from doing what I'm going to do," Leviss said, later giving Andy Cohen a TomTom sweatshirt as a gift.

VANDERPUMP RULES -- Season:10 -- Pictured: Ariana Madix -- (Photo by: Tommy Garcia/Bravo); VANDERPUMP RULES -- Season:10 -- Pictured: Tom Sandoval -- (Photo by: Tommy Garcia/Bravo); VANDERPUMP RULES -- Season:10 -- Pictured: Raquel Leviss -- (Photo by: Tommy Garcia/Bravo)
Ariana Madix, Tom Sandoval and Raquel Leviss. Tommy Garcia/Bravo (3)

After the taping, Leviss admitted to Shay the truth about her and Sandoval, a separate insider told PEOPLE.

"Scheana was furious," the source said. "She and all the Vanderpump Rules costars have rallied around Ariana during this time. They can't believe Raquel would do something like that."

Lala Kent, Charli Burnett, James Kennedy and even Sandoval's ex, former Vanderpump Rules star Kristen Doute have all been outspoken on social media, showing Madix their support.

Reality show cameras have also been capturing their reaction in real time. A production source told PEOPLE that Bravo and production company Evolution began filming again to follow the fallout of the affair. The footage is expected to be incorporated into the 10th season of the show, which is currently airing Wednesday nights.

Tom Schwartz, Tom Sandoval
Tom Sandoval and Tom Schwartz. Gabriel Olsen/Getty

Fans, meanwhile, have had a field day with the news, flooding the social media pages of Sandoval's bar and cocktail lounges — TomTom and Schwartz & Sandy's — with negative comments.

In his statement on Saturday, Sandoval asked fans to show the establishments some grace.

"Schwartz & Sandy's might have my name on it, but also there are 3 other partners and 20 employees, who especially rely on the restaurant for income for them and their families," he said. "Just like TomTom, I'm a small part of a much bigger thing. Please direct ur anger towards me and not them. They did nothing wrong."

He went on to apologize to his partners and his employees who "have to suffer for my actions," adding that he will be removing himself temporarily from the businesses.

"I will be taking a step back & taking a hiatus out of respect for my employees & partners," he said. "I need some time to address everything else."

"Sorry for everything—," he signed the note.

On their official Instagram page, Schwartz & Sandy's also posted a message on Saturday asking fans to step back. "In light of the recent news we appreciate the many words of support but we also understand the outpouring of outrage that has been directed towards our business," their post read. "However, those of us who are not famous have dedicated our time, hearts and money to make this restaurant a reality."

The post included kind words for Madix. "We too are disappointed by the current situation, as Ariana has always been a good friend and a great supporter of the restaurant," it read.

"We appreciate that you may feel a certain way, but please understand that the livelihoods of others also depend on this business," the message noted. "There are far more people involved in this venue other than just Tom Sandoval and Tom Schwartz. Our staff, from the waitresses and bartenders to the cooks and dishwashers, all have had nothing to do with this unfortunate situation. Please take into consideration, that point negative comments affects more than just the individual you may be upset with."

"Our goal has always been to create a place where our community can come and enjoy a fun atmosphere with good food and friendly service and we intend to continue to focus on that endeavor," the statement concluded.

Since news broke, Sandoval and Madix have filmed a one-on-one conversation in their shared home.

A source told PEOPLE that Sandoval has not yet moved out of the house, though photographers snapped the reality star packing bags into a car outside outside the property on Friday ahead of a gig he and his band played in Anaheim.

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Madix, on the other hand, was spotted by fans at a Tove Lo concert on Friday. She also appeared in an Instagram Story with Doute, who kissed her and told her, "I love you so much. I love you more than anything in the whole wide world, and I'll kill people for you."

Neither Madix nor Leviss have publicly commented on the news. PEOPLE has reached out to both of them.

Vanderpump Rules airs Wednesdays at 9 p.m. ET on Bravo.

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