People.com Entertainment TV Kelley Flanagan Says There Were 'Non-Negotiable' Factors That Went Into Peter Weber Split Kelley Flanagan had an on-and-off relationship with Peter Weber following her departure as fifth runner-up on the pilot's season of the ABC series By Naledi Ushe Naledi Ushe Digital News Writer, PEOPLE People Editorial Guidelines Published on March 16, 2021 03:00 AM Share Tweet Pin Email Photo: Kelley Flanagan/Instagram Former Bachelor Peter Weber and Kelley Flanagan are officially at the end of their on-again, off-again relationship. During an appearance on former Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe's podcast, Off the Vine on PodcastOne, Flanagan, 29, discussed what led to her and Weber, 29, calling off their relationship for good last month. The lawyer was fifth runner-up on Weber's season of The Bachelor after they had met once before the show taped. After the pilot's relationships with frontrunners Hannah Ann Sluss and Madison Prewett didn't work out, Weber gave it another shot with Flanagan. He announced their split on New Year's Eve, months after they decided to move to New York City together. The pair tried to mend their relationship once more, but in February they called it quits for good. "On my end, there were just a lot of non-negotiables in the relationship that they essentially were seeming to be worked on or saying that they were going to be worked on or changed, and actions kind of speak louder than words," Flanagan said. Kelley Flanagan/Instagram Kelley Flanagan Says She Would 'Consider' Being the Bachelorette After Split from Peter Weber She continued, "If there is something that I saw as disrespectful in a relationship, I would speak on it and I was pretty vocal. I think communication is huge in a relationship and there were things that essentially I would be like 'Hey look, this makes me feel like s—, this makes me feel this way.'" Flanagan added that discussions around her non-negotiables "weren't really changing." Flanagan told Bristowe, 35, that she had asked Weber not to post about their New Year's Eve breakup because she hadn't had a chance to tell her friends and family. "I think there was some kind of mental thing going on [with him] essentially saying like 'I had to do this in 2020,'" she recalled. "Like you do whatever you want, but I'll post it when I feel comfortable." The lawyer opened up about their split for the first time on Jan. 3. Kelley Flanagan Says She and Ex Peter Weber Are in 'Two Different Stages of Our Lives' Things took a turn "maybe a week" after their split, Flanagan said. "Then he essentially tried to like get back together and was trying to work on things and I was pretty, pretty hesitant towards all of it," she continued. "He's telling me like, 'I love you, I want to get back together with you.' " After Valentine's Day, the couple called it quits again. Will you accept this rose? Sign up for PEOPLE's free weekly Bachelor Nation newsletter to get the latest news on The Bachelor, The Bachelorette and everything in between. "I don't think I will be in communication with him," she told Bristowe. "It's a place in my past, I'm focusing on my future wishes. I don't think it was the healthiest thing for me to keep [my] past and [my] future and I wish him well." RELATED VIDEO: Peter Weber Shows Off His DIY Decorating Skills in New NYC Bachelor Pad: 'Find Me on TaskRabbit' As for her plans to move to New York City months after Weber moved there, Flanagan joked, "It's a big city, we'll be fine." She added, "There was never a time where I was like, 'Okay, well, since you're moving [there] I'm not gonna move there.'"