Entertainment TV Bachelorettes Unite! 13 Alumni Reveal What They've Learned on Their Journeys to Finding Love No one ever said that the path to true love was easy. Don't believe us? Take it from the ladies of The Bachelorette! By Octavia Akoulitchev Updated on October 13, 2020 11:15 AM Share Tweet Pin Email Trending Videos Photo: John Fleenor/ABC 01 of 13 Trista (Rehn) Sutter, 47 Bob D'Amico/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 1 (2003) Then: The former dancer for the Miami Heat fell hard for firefighter Ryan Sutter. Now: The Vail, Colorado-based couple recently celebrated their 15th wedding anniversary and have two children, Max and Blakesley. Words of Wisdom: "Our focus is always on each other," says the self-help author. "We make our relationship a priority." 02 of 13 DeAnna (Pappas) Stagliano, 38 Kevin Foley/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 4 (2008) Then: She and Jesse Csincsak split four months after the finale aired. Now: Wed to Stephen Stagliano (whose twin, Michael, was on season 5) since 2011, the L.A.-based blogger and Moms in Cars host has two kids, Addison and Austin. Words of Wisdom: "I had a terrible breakup, but everything leads you to where you're meant to be." 03 of 13 Jillian Harris, 40 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 5 (2009) Then: The Canada native fell for tech consultant Ed Swiderski, but the engagement was called off a year later. Now: The blogger and TV host has two children, Leo and Annie, with partner Justin Pasutto. Words of Wisdom: "It can be difficult to have millions of people comment on your personal decisions. I'm much more confident now." 04 of 13 Ali Fedotowsky-Manno, 36 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 6 (2010) Then: She got engaged to her pick, Roberto Martinez, but they split 18 months later. Now: Wed to radio host Kevin Manno since 2017, the blogger has two kids: Molly and Riley. Words of Wisdom: "All of us Bachelorettes are on a group text. It's like we're sisters." 05 of 13 Ashley (Hebert) Rosenbaum, 35 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 7 (2011) Then: The dentist got engaged to construction manager J.P. Rosenbaum on the show; their 2012 nuptials aired on ABC. Now: The Florida-based couple have two children, son Ford and daughter Essex. In December 2019, the couple announced that Rosenbaum was diagnosed with Guillain-Barré syndrome, a rare neurological disorder that affects the immune and nervous systems. Words of Wisdom: "J.P. and I are lucky. We clicked right off the bat, and we were able to navigate all the hype." 06 of 13 Emily Maynard Johnson, 34 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 8 (2012) Then: After a brief engagement to season 15 Bachelor star Brad Womack, the single mom found love with Jef Holm, but they split three months after the finale. Now: She lives in North Carolina with Tyler, her husband of nearly five years, and four children: Ricki, Jennings, Gibson and Gatlin. Words of Wisdom: "The show gave me such a clear vision of what I wanted. And I know I was put on this earth to be a mom." 07 of 13 Desiree (Hartsock) Siegfried, 34 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 9 (2013) Then: The bridal designer got engaged to poetry-reciting mortgage banker Chris Siegfried. Now: Married for four years, the couple have two sons, Asher and Zander. Words of Wisdom: "I used to be very reserved, but The Bachelorette forced me to open up," says Siegfried, who shares honest moments from motherhood on her Instagram account. "I'm tired of seeing this picture-perfect world on social media!" 08 of 13 Andi Dorfman, 33 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 10 (2014) Then: The outspoken attorney got engaged to former baseball player Josh Murray. Now: Following a painful split from Murray eight months after the finale, Dorfman moved to N.Y.C. and has written two successful memoirs. Words of Wisdom: "I wanted to prove that I could find love and be a show success story, but sometimes it's just not there," says Dorfman, who is single and dating. "Lesson learned!" 09 of 13 Kaitlyn Bristowe, 35 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 11 (2015) Then: The fun-loving favorite got engaged to personal trainer Shawn Booth. Now: After three years together they split last fall. Bristowe, who hosts the Off the Vine podcast, lives in Nashville and is dating Bachelorette alumnus Jason Tartick, who competed on Becca Kufrin's season. She also checked a bucket-list item off her list: competing on season 29 of Dancing with the Stars. Words of Wisdom: "Since the show, I learned to be more self-aware and vulnerable. Of course I have regrets, but it's been the most beautiful whirlwind." 10 of 13 JoJo Fletcher, 29 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 12 (2016) Then: The real estate developer had an instant connection with former pro football player Jordan Rodgers. Now: Engaged since the finale, Fletcher and Rodgers are living together in Dallas and cohost the house-flipping show Cash Pad on CNBC. Originally set to wed in June 2020, the couple postponed their nuptials amid the COVID-19 pandemic. Words of Wisdom: "Once the cameras turned off, Jordan and I had our relationship to ourselves. We went through a tough first year, but it was a growing experience. We just love being around each other—he's my best friend." 11 of 13 Rachel Lindsay, 35 Mitch Haaseth/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 13 (2017) Then: The attorney fell in love and got engaged to chiropractor Bryan Abasolo. Now: Lindsay and Abosolo tied the knot in October 2019. Lindsay now co-hosts Extra and MTV's Ghosted, as well as the podcasts Higher Learning and Bachelor Happy Hour. Words of Wisdom: "No one who looked like me had ever been represented in this role before," says Lindsay. "That's one reason I did the show, and I'm so proud I did. Never in my wildest dreams did I think it would actually work and I'd be getting married!" 12 of 13 Becca Kufrin, 30 Craig Sjodin/ABC via Getty; John Fleenor/ABC Season 14 (2018) Then: After a (very) public breakup with Bachelor star Arie Luyendyk Jr., Kufrin found a fiancé in medical sales rep Garrett Yrigoyen. Now: Kufrin and Yrigoyen were engaged for two years, but broke up in the summer of 2020, amid months of rumors following Yrigoyen's support of law enforcement in the wake of national protests against systemic racism and police brutality. Words of Wisdom: "I grew immensely from the show, and I realized that I didn't need to settle. I found someone perfectly compatible for me." 13 of 13 Hannah Brown, 26 Craig Sjodin/Walt Disney Television via Getty; Alexander Tamargo/Getty Season 15 (2019) Then: Hannah B. picked Jed, the dog jingle writer and musician, and the pair were briefly engaged...until Hannah found out that Jed had a girlfriend when he came on the show. The pair split before the finale aired. Now: Single and ready to mingle, Hannah joined a "quarantine crew" amid the coronavirus pandemic with runner-up Tyler Cameron — although the two clarified the status of their relationship. Words of Wisdom: Hannah said of her decision, "I have been in love with somebody in my past who lied to me, who cheated on me, and I tried to make it work, but I'm not that girl anymore, and that's been something I've been so proud of. So, no matter how much it hurts, I won't allow myself to be stuck in [something] for any longer than I should be. I deserve better."