The Bachelor star says her found "clarity" with the women he brought to South Africa

By Brad Womack
March 01, 2011 08:00 AM
Credit: ABC

Hey everybody,

You saw this week on The Bachelor I was able to fulfill a lifelong dream of mine: I traveled to South Africa!

The three remaining ladies and I spent some time on a private game reserve in Sabi Sands called Lion Sands Game Reserve. It was beautiful! The first morning that I woke up, as I entered the bathroom, I looked outside and saw an elephant casually grazing for his morning snack. Right outside of my bathroom! We were surrounded by exotic animals in their natural habitat while staying at the lodge – truly a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

I’m told that the majority of you that are watching find this particular week the most interesting because this is the week of the fantasy overnight dates. I’ll be the first to admit, as a fan of the show before I was on it, I would always tune in and wonder what exactly happens on those overnight dates. Will the couple really stay the night together? Are they really free from cameras or is there a crew on standby, waiting to capture the next groundbreaking moment? Well I, of course, found out the answer to my questions. Yes, we (the couple) are completely alone and camera free. Yes, we stay in the same room together overnight. What happens is completely up to the couple.

I’d like to explain why overnight dates are so important and what I used those nights away from the cameras for. I wanted to take the opportunity with all three of the women to talk, off camera, so we could all feel even more comfortable. By this time, I had gotten to know the women so very well and I wanted to feel confident in the fact that, after talking with each of them all night, I knew exactly what type of woman each of them is. I wanted to be confident that I actually knew these women as well as I thought I did. The overnight dates actually gave me quite a bit of clarity – clarity that I had been looking for!

The women and I were able to go on some amazing dates. A safari, riding elephants and a helicopter tour – all in one week! Whose life is this?! Speaking of the dates, being with Chantal and Emily in South Africa really brought us closer. Each relationship got a lot stronger, but I know everybody is going to have the most questions about Ashley.

Saying goodbye to Ashley was extremely difficult. Everyone knows what a connection Ashley and I had that started from day one. I remember watching her drive away – I was so sad. I didn’t think I had made a mistake. I was just riddled with questions in my mind. What happened along the way to our relationship? Could I have done something differently? Does Ashley know how much I care about her as a person? It was like I was watching a lifelong friend drive away, not knowing if I would ever see her again.

It’s almost here! Only two weeks left and all of you can share with me one of the best days of my entire life. I’m counting the minutes until the day I can tell anyone who will listen who I’ve fallen in love with!

Thanks so much for the continued support!

Brad Womack

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