The newly minted suitor says the whole world learned his sexual status during his stint on The Bachelorette

By Aili Nahas
December 31, 2015 09:40 AM
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His sexual status certainly wasn’t a secret, but nonetheless Ben Higgins was taken aback when former Bachelorette Kaitlyn Bristowe asked him point blank whether he was a virgin (by the way – he’s not).

“Thanks Kaitlyn!” new Bachelor Higgins says with a laugh. “It’s not something you expect to be brought up. I don’t think it was something my grandma or my mom didn’t expect or were shocked by, but it was weird!”

Continues Higgins: “I have to thank Kaitlyn for taking the opportunity to ask me that on national television. So now my grandma knows for certain!”

Still, the 26-year-old software accounts manager says that when it comes to intimacy, open dialogue is crucial.

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“I don’t think many topics should be taboo, especially sex,” says Higgins. “Those conversations should exist in a relationship, especially when it comes to your expectations, limits and boundaries.”

For exclusive photos and much more from Bachelor Ben, pick up the new issue of PEOPLE, on stands nowUnfortunately (for us) Higgins says he plans to keep most of those chats off camera.

“I want to make sure I keep those communications between us,” he says. “There are some conversations that only need to happen between the two people involved in a relationship!”

The new season of The Bachelor premieres January 4 at 8 p.m. ET on ABC.