By People Staff
Updated December 18, 2019 10:33 PM
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Teresa Giudice knows how to keep it classy — just don’t tell her to pay attention, puh-lease. The Real Housewives of New Jersey star is flipping the tables on the ladies of The Real Housewives of New York by sounding off on season 3 of their show. And her first post is all about love and relationships:

People always ask me what’s the secret to a relationship. Besides the obvious — lots of patience, respect, communication and sex — there are tons of things that can make or break it. I thought it would be fun to look at some of the dos and don’ts of how to have a “Happy Wife, Happy Life,” as demonstrated by the ladies of The Real Housewives of New York City. Their third season, which premiered last week and continues Thursday, promises to be rich with material — from Bethenny‘s new love, to Ramona‘s renewed love and LuAnn‘s divorce. Here’s what we saw in the first episode:

You wanna a good relationship? You better stand by your man. Jill Zarin is great at this. Even though her husband Bobby is not on camera much, she’s always talking about him with love. When he’s hurting (like his battle with cancer this summer) she’s hurting and you can tell.

Ramona Singer is also good at sticking by — and sticking up — for her husband. This summer, Mario made a cheap joke at LuAnn‘s expense, calling her “Countless” because she and the Count got divorced. LuAnn confronted Ramona during a yacht ride and even though she admitted it wasn’t nice thing to do, Ramona defended her husband, saying he had been misunderstood. Of course, it turned into a yacht ride from hell when Ramona burst into tears. The point is, she put her husband in a positive light and gave him the benefit of a doubt. You should always be your partner’s biggest cheerleader.

Now, if you want a nasty whore, then by all means, go be a nasty whore. But if you want a great, honest, caring person to spend your life with and have children with, you need to be that person. I’m not saying you have to be a nun. But there are ways to be sexy and have fun without being trashy — and it starts by including your partner.

If you’re going solo on something sexy, try to be classy. I was not impressed with Bethenny‘s rooftop PETA party. She was flashing her friends, hiking up her robe by the bush, and saying things like, “It’s not like I’m spreading my legs and blowing someone.” Bethenny’s new boyfriend Jason said he wasn’t comfortable with her posing nude, and she made fun of him for it. A lot. She said their entire relationship was him rolling his eyes at the things she did. She said he was really conservative, and she’s obviously not. Opposites attract when it comes to personality, but it’s not a great idea to hook up with someone who has an entirely different set of morals. If Jason had been into it, that would be cool. But he doesn’t seem to be, and she doesn’t seem to care. In fact, she goes out of her way to make him more uncomfortable: She talked about her body like a truck driver and he cringed. She even sent naked pictures of herself to his work email! Seriously, Bethenny? I don’t know him at all, but from the first episode, Jason seems like a really nice guy. I hope Bethenny can be a nice girl for him.

Baci, Teresa Giudice

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