Entertainment TV Taraji P. Henson Reflects on How She's Doing Since Ending Engagement: 'I Am Much Better' Taraji P. Henson announced last month that she and Kelvin Hayden had split By Ally Mauch Published on November 21, 2020 10:55 AM Share Tweet Pin Email Taraji P. Henson. Photo: Michael Loccisano/Getty Images Taraji P. Henson is opening up about how she's doing since announcing her split from fiancé Kelvin Hayden last month. "I am much better, let's put it that way," the actress, 50, told Entertainment Tonight ahead of her hosting gig at the American Music Awards on Sunday. Henson revealed that she and Hayden had split during an appearance on The Breakfast Club morning radio show in October, nearly two years after the former NFL star proposed. "I haven’t said it yet but it didn’t work out," Henson said at the time of her romance with Hayden, 37. "I tried, I said, 'let’s do the therapy thing' but if you’re both not on the same page with that, then you feel like you’re taking it on yourself and that’s not a fair position for anybody to play in a relationship." Taraji P. Henson & Kelvin Hayden. Kevin Mazur/Getty Taraji P. Henson and Fiancé Kelvin Hayden End Engagement: 'It Didn't Work Out' Though she did not disclose the reason behind the breakup or when they decided to call it quits at the time, Henson stressed the importance of internal happiness separate from romantic relationships. “My happiness is not his responsibility and his is not mine. We have to first learn how to make ourselves happy, to make each other happy. So when one person is taking on the weight of the entire relationship, it’s never going to work,” she added. “You have to show up, yes you want to be understanding but you can’t lose yourself in that understanding. You have to still stand up for yourself and be there for yourself but it’s hard to do if the other person isn’t doing that either." Talking to ET this week, the Empire star noted that celebrating a major birthday milestone — her 50th — in September prompted her to change her outlook. Taraji P. Henson Slated to Host 'Electrifying' 2020 American Music Awards "I felt myself slipping and so I was like, 'You know what I am not going to do is let 50 happen to me," Henson said. "I am going to get control of this mentally and not be like, 'You are getting old, don't nobody care, you ain't working,' Well, duh, no one is working, it is COVID. So I felt that coming." Henson, who said that she doesn't "have those low lows anymore," also offered some advice to others who may be having a tough time — "So anybody out there, that might be going through this darkness, literally, working out, it really works." Taraji P. Henson Honored for Advocacy: 'We Don't Talk About Mental Health in the Black Community' Earlier this month ABC and dick clark productions announced that Henson would be hosting the AMAs, which will be broadcast live from Los Angeles’ Microsoft Theater on Sunday. "The AMAs brings together the music community to celebrate what really drives all artists — the fans," she said in a statement at the time. "I'm proud to take the stage as this year's host — and also a fan — for what promises to be an electrifying night of music." The 2020 American Music Awards will air live on ABC on Sunday, Nov. 22, at 8 p.m. EST.