How Suzanne Somers and Alan Hamel Keep Their Relationship Sexy After 50 Years Together
Suzanne Somers reveals how an instant attraction turned into a decades-long romance
Many first dates end with sex, but few turn into decades-long relationships.
In her new book, Two’s Company: A Fifty-Year Romance with Lessons Learned in Love, Life & Business, exclusively excerpted in this week’s issue of PEOPLE, former sitcom star Suzanne Somers reflects on her relationship with husband and TV producer Alan Hamel — and how they’ve managed to be the exception to the rule.
What started off as a sultry night turned into a romance that has lasted 50 years and is as sexy as ever.
Alan “turned on women and turned on men. Everybody liked him, everybody liked to be around him. I just stood in awe,” the 71-year-old tells PEOPLE of first meeting Hamel, who is 10 years her senior.
They met on the set of a game show, where she worked as a prize model.
“I went on my first date with him [and] slept with him on the first date [because] I thought, ‘I may never get another chance'” she adds. “It was so incredible. I’ve been with him ever since.”
Their romance may echo a fairytale, but Somers faced great difficulty before and after meeting Hamel. She was verbally abused by her alcoholic father while growing up, who prophesied that’d she’d “get knocked up.” She was 18 when she got pregnant and married the baby’s father because “that’s what you did.” They soon divorced, and she was on her own as a broke, teenage mother. Somers explains that she drew strength from her relationship with her son.
“Bruce, my son, was sent to me when I wasn’t ready. … He was sent to me to keep me alive because I was not emotionally well yet,” she says. “He became my little pal, the person in my life that made me feel that I wasn’t a screw up.”
Her life changed after she met Hamel, who helped her navigate her newfound fame as Chrissy Snow on the beloved sitcom Three’s Company.
“If you want to get really lofty, did we know each other in another life?” Somers says of her connection with Hamel. “It was that instant.”
She adds, “I think the 10-year difference, he has a perspective that I’ve been catching up with. He’s been a great teacher, as I believe I’ve been a great teacher for him.”
Teachers they are, both in and out of the bedroom. In Two’s Company, Somers remembers one especially fun night early on in their relationship when they made love on bubble wrap.
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“There was a big kid inside Alan Hamel,” she writes. “He started jumping on the bubbles, popping them, and then he grabbed my hand. He and I were jumping up and down, falling on the ground, pop pop pop! Soon we were making wild and crazy love on the plastic floor. I was madly in love.”
They dated for 10 years before marrying in 1977. Together, they worked to blend their families (she has one son and he has two children), supported each other as she battled cancer, and helped build each other’s careers. Somers is now the author of numerous books and a champion of alternative medicine.
And after everything, the couple still feels that intense attraction. In her memoir, Somers reveals that they have sex twice a day. How do they maintain the magic?
“Listen to one another, give each other a lot of attention, keep it exciting, date,” she says. “My marriage is very romantic. … We might sit here and have a tequila. … We dance, I cook, we sit out and watch the moonlight on the ocean.”
She adds, “It’s just everything I wanted it to be. Everything.”
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