The reality star says she wants a "solid guy"

By Emily Strohm
Updated April 29, 2015 09:00 AM
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When it comes to dating Ramona Singer, guys better bring their A-game.

“If on the first date, if he doesn’t help me with my coat, then I don’t want to be with him,” Singer tells PEOPLE.

“I like a man who is attentive from the very beginning. If he’s not, then you don’t want him.”

The RHONY star split with Mario Singer, her husband of 22 years, last July after she reportedly caught him cheating with another woman.

“I tried to make my marriage work because I have strong values and I believe that people make mistakes,” Singer, 57, told PEOPLE at the time. “But you reach a point where you realize the other person isn’t putting in as much effort as you are. And I reached my breaking point.”

Now that she’s back in the dating scene, Singer is particular about the process of meeting someone new.

“I really like to be set up,” she says. “It’s nicer because the person setting us up knows me and them.”

But the reality star still doesn’t like to reveal everything about herself right away, including the fact that she’s on TV.

“I don’t want them to have any kind of pre-judged opinion of me,” she says.

“I’m proud of what I do but I don’t want to be judged for what I do because it can be taken out of context.”

So what does Singer consider a great first date?

“Have great bottle of wine, great conversation, maybe go somewhere else later for a drink and then the next day they send you flowers.”

The Real Housewives of New York City airs Tuesdays at 9 p.m. on Bravo.

For more on Ramona Singer’s single life, pick up this week’s issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands Friday

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