Amber Marchese's husband Jim Marchese walked off their plane and straight into handcuffs after getting physically violent with her on board their flight.
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Amber Marchese is speaking out after her husband Jim’s arrest for an alleged domestic assault against her.

“Domestic violence is not a joke, and having my husband be accused of such a heinous act is not only hurtful but damaging personally, emotionally and professionally,” Amber says in a statement to PEOPLE. ” I would never let myself be a victim of anything or anyone.”

Jim, 46, was arrested at Los Angeles International Airport Wednesday, with LAX police telling PEOPLE at the time he allegedly “had grabbed the victim by the throat and made threats against her” while on board a flight.

Amber, 38, denied these charges and says they were returning on a red eye flight after shooting a television project.

“We were actually talking about hooking up and joining the ‘mile high’ club. Some heavy PDA was involved, just the opposite of what certain people reported they saw,” she says. “After that brief bit of fun between us we prepared for takeoff and I ordered a glass of white wine. I was peacefully sipping my wine and Jim was sleeping when we were asked to leave the plane.”

Amber says she and Jim were confused why they were being asked to leave and thought something may have happened to their children.

“No explanations or answers were given to our questions and we were immediately separated. All I wanted was my husband Jim so we could figure out what happened and how to help the authorities by answering any questions,” says Amber. “All Jim wanted was to make sure I was ok. We asked why we re being removed from the plane. We complied with everyone involved from the flight attendant to the authorities.”

She goes on to say throughout the process, her husband was “a gentleman” who “never once lost his composure.”

“To be crystal clear there was no complaint of domestic violence, signs of distress or request for assistance made by myself and there was no wrong doing by my husband,” she says. “At no time did my husband ever choke me or threaten me in any way shape or form. Jim and I have been married for 10 years and he has always treated me like gold and we have a beautiful relationship and a wonderful life. Every relationship has flaws and we are not perfect BUT these reports are undeniably false and disgusting.”

Jim was taken into custody and his bail was set at $50,000. He is scheduled back in court on May 11, according to arrest records.

In April 2015, Amber revealed her cancer had returned after surviving breast cancer in 2009. She blogs about her health for PEOPLE.

“You just have to go on with everyday life. I always say, it’s not a matter of if something is going to happen, it’s a matter of how we handle it,” Amber told PEOPLE in 2015 after her diagnosis. “I feel at peace. I feel determined. I feel like everything is going to be okay.”