Married at First Sight's Tom Wilson on Consummating His Marriage: 'Our Sexual Tension Just Snaps Like a Steel Cable'
After her last relationship left her with a broken heart, Lillian Vilchez focused on her career, but the real estate agent is now ready to find lasting love with Tom Wilson, a yacht interior specialist, on ‘Married at First Sight’ (a social experiment show where couples meet for the first time on their wedding day). The newlyweds are alternating each week blogging exclusively about the ups and downs of marriage for PEOPLE. Check back after every episode and follow them on Twitter: @Lillian_MAFS and @Tom_MAFS!
It’s finally our honeymoon!! And as soon as we get to Jamaica and upstairs to our room, all I can think is “I can’t believe the suite we got!” It’s a huge, beautiful room with a massive hot tub on the balcony, PLUS a Jacuzzi inside. And of course there are rose petals everywhere you look! The view of the Caribbean sea is breathtaking! It’s the absolute perfect way to set the mood.
So, on our first night, we have a nice quiet dinner, and it’s very romantic. But when it’s time to end the night, we have a little bit of trouble. We end up not sleeping very much at all that night because our sexual tension just snaps like a steel cable!
Yep, we consummate our marriage! Of course I can’t give too many details, but lying in bed with Lilly after, and feeling her heart racing, I don’t want her to leave my side. And I don’t think she wants to either because she uses my chest as a pillow until we wake the next morning.
We get up and we have a lot of things we want to do and see. And the first thing on that list is to settle in and hit the beach with some drinks. Lilly loves the beach and the water too! This really is a relief because I LOVE the ocean and the water.
Talking with Lilly is so easy and our conversations just flow. Plus, it doesn’t hurt that she’s really easy on the eyes – especially when she’s just rocking a bikini! I’m in a constant state of excitement when I’m around her and while we’re just relaxing in the water, I decide to ask, “You see that 50-foot catamaran yacht?”
“Yep, it’s beautiful!” she replies.
I’m thinking to myself, “If she likes that, maybe she’ll like my bus,” so I ask, “Could you live on a boat?”
And she exclaims, “I’d love to, not forever but for a like a year would be fun.”
Inside, I’m thinking “YES!!!” but I’m worried that this may not be the time to break the news that I live on a tour bus, so we spend the rest of the day relaxing and taking it easy.
The following day we decide to explore some amazing waterfalls in Jamaica, and it’s incredible! These slow gentle waterfalls make a great playground full of river pools and slides, deep drops and adventurous pathways. We’re having so much fun that we don’t even notice the rain. But when I finally realize that it’s coming down, I pull Lilly in closer, grab her hands and say my vows to her again in the rain, standing in waist-deep, cool water at the base of a 100-foot waterfall. I feel like the rain has joined us closer. Every time it rains, it reminds us of our wedding day.
I enjoy everything about Lilly. Inside and out, she’s just amazing. That night, we have a romantic dinner at the resort and Lilly opens up a lot. We both see how close we’re getting. We’re developing stronger feelings for each other as each day goes by, but before we rest our heads after dinner, we stop to do our assignment.
“Pillow Talk” is an interesting series of exercises given by the experts that help couples ask each other the hard questions. The first question is, “What’s the number one thing you want your spouse to know about you?”
“I’m a minimalist. I don’t require a whole lot,” I answer. “I’d rather my money be spent on amazing experiences instead of a nice car.”
Now, let me explain. In Miami, you’re judged by what you drive and what you wear – not by being a good person. Lilly knows this, but she’s a realtor and drives a brand new Lexus, so she is immediately offended by my “…people in Miami are materialistic” comment, and I know she thought I was putting her in that category. But I immediately clarified that I didn’t mean that she was materialistic.
Her car is part of her business. I get it. But at least 60 percent of people in Miami do fall into that category. The best definition of being materialistic that I can give is that it means caring more about your possessions than people and judging yourself and others by the cost of these things. This doesn’t define Lilly or her lifestyle, but I could see how she got offended. So I apologize and re-clarify so that she understands where I’m coming from.
But now I’m more worried than ever that Lilly is going to run as soon as I tell her that I live on a bus. To see how things go, tune in next week!
Married at First Sight airs Tuesdays (8:30 p.m. ET) on FYI.