MAFS's Tom Wilson opens up about asking his wife's mother for approval of their marriage
After her last relationship left her with a broken heart, Lillian Vilchez focused on her career, but the real estate agent is now ready to find lasting love with Tom Wilson, a yacht interior specialist, on ‘Married at First Sight’ (a social experiment show where couples meet for the first time on their wedding day). The newlyweds are alternating each week blogging exclusively about the ups and downs of marriage for PEOPLE. Check back after every episode and follow them on Twitter: @Lillian_MAFS and @Tom_MAFS!
Hello everyone! Wow, the last few days have been so crazy with Hurricane Matthew! I hope everyone’s friends and families are safe.
This week on the show, we are looking back at the weekend when our mothers came out for Mother’s Day and it reminds me of how much of a good time we had. My mom flew out from Colorado, my home state. I picked her up from the airport and we immediately started talking about Lilly and I. My mom is full of wisdom, so any time she tells me to listen up, I know it’s important. She reminds me that marriage isn’t easy. It’s hard work to make it work and both parties have to give it their all. This is all so true. Or in the words of Pastor Cal, “marriage ain’t for punks!!”
Lilly’s mother flew in kind of late from Nicaragua. She was tired and hungry, so we decided to order tacos and have margaritas! Our conversation while eating was a little one-sided because Lilly’s mother doesn’t speak English too well, so we tried to fill her in on little pieces of the conversation.
My mom made a comment that no matter what happens, she didn’t want any broken hearts, and I agreed. It’s started to get a little late, so we called it a night and got ready for bed because tomorrow was a big day!
My mom was so excited to visit us and couldn’t wait to stay in the bus. Clearly, I’m her son!! If my mom stayed in the house with all of us, it would have been a little too crowded, since Lilly and I just got a new place together.
The next day, we had some awesome stuff planned. I couldn’t wait to have our little picnic where Lilly used to live. I love the area and really enjoy parks so this was a perfect lunch spot for Mother’s Day. While we were there, Lilly asked to steal my mom for a second to ask her some questions. Of course, I didn’t mind, I just hung back with Lilly’s mother, Delia.
I figured this was a great opportunity to ask Delia if I had her approval as Lilly’s husband. Hearing that Delia is comfortable with our marriage would make me feel more at ease. The only problem was that there was a huge language barrier, so I kinda struggled with how to ask her!
After a while of trying, Delia started to pick up on what I was trying to ask and she said, “Oh yes, I approve, you’re a good man!”
My reaction: Yay!! I’m super stoked! Lilly and my mom returned with smiles on their faces too, so I was sure they had a wonderful talk as well.
We had such a great time at the park and decided to take our mothers to a place where you paint while you enjoy wine or beer. We sat down and started the lesson, and I noticed that Lilly seemed to think that we were sharing paintings, but I was thinking I would get to paint my own.
It was pretty obvious that Lilly has a hard time expressing her creative side. I was just doing my own thing and I saw Lilly trying to follow instructions perfectly. My mom pointed out that I’ve always been that way. I think Lilly took that to mean that I’m not a team player. I feel like I’m definitely a team player, but in this situation we can all do whatever we want with our canvases.
So… instead of painting a dolphin, I decided that I wanted a shark and to paint a scene that I could relate to. I painted a shark fin protruding from the water chasing a surfer. I was really happy with it and got a lot of compliments. Lilly and Delia had a lot of fun and seemed to really enjoy the bonding experience. My mom loves to paint and she did an amazing job, too! I’m really happy to bond with everyone. This Mother’s Day was so much fun and I really enjoyed our time together. As always, I’m hoping this isn’t the last Mother’s Day we all spend together…
Well, I guess I’ll go back to looking at the surf forecast and I have to meet some clients to give an estimate to refit their boat so… bye for now!!