Lauren Burnham Defends Bachelor Arie Luyendyk Jr.'s Change of Heart: 'He Won't Change His Mind Again'

Lauren Burnham says Arie Luyendyk Jr. reached out to her while engaged to Becca Kufrin

Amidst all of the Bachelor backlash following the bombshell that Arie Luyendyk Jr. proposed to Becca Kufrin, only to dump her for runner-up Lauren Burnham there is at least one person who wholeheartedly defends him.

“I totally respect his decision to follow his heart,” says Burnham, who reconciled with Luyendyk Jr. just weeks after he proposed to Kufrin, in this week’s PEOPLE cover story. “I don’t blame him for it, and I think it’s made us stronger in the end.”

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Still, Burnham admits that she was initially skeptical when Luyendyk Jr., 36, first reached out to her — while he was still engaged.

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“He texted me on New Year’s Eve — ‘I think this is maybe crossing the line, but I’d like to talk,’ ” she reveals.

When he made his feelings clear, “I did have some reservations,” she says. “I was just afraid he would change his mind again.”


But after they spoke at length, Burnham’s perspective shifted: “I was just like, ‘We need to do it, you need to take the risk if this means a lot to you and you need to follow your heart. If not, then we don’t need to talk anymore.’ ”

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Ultimately, “It was worth risking getting hurt again to see where it could go,” says Burnham, 26. “We’ve had a lot of conversations about it, and I know he won’t change his mind again.”

“It makes things easier for me knowing that he was able to be with Becca outside of this experience and he still knew that wasn’t what he wanted,” she adds. “It gives me confidence in our relationship knowing that he truly wants to be with me and he took this huge risk to make it happen.”

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