By Blane Bachelor
Updated March 05, 2010 12:00 AM
Credit: Quantrell Colbert/Bravo

After her sexuality was questioned in the media, The Real Housewives of Atlanta‘s Kim Zolciak wants to set the record straight, telling PEOPLE she’s “in a great place” with her as-yet-unnamed, still-not-divorced boyfriend, Big Poppa. Rumors that Zolciak was involved romantically with deejay Tracy Young kicked into high gear after Zolciak’s performance of her single, “Tardy for the Party,” at Atlanta club Gold Room Feb. 26. Throughout the evening, there was visible tension between her and Young, who was repeatedly rebuffed trying to enter the bathroom where Zolciak was preparing to take the stage. Was it a lovers’ quarrel? No, says Zolciak, who explains that she and Young had a disagreement over the performance: Young wanted her to sing a remix of the song, but Zolciak, who was sick that week, hadn’t properly rehearsed that version. As for a romantic relationship between the two, “All I’m going to say is that she is a great friend of mine, I adore her, and she’s so talented,” Zolciak tells PEOPLE.

Here, the Housewives star and mother of two daughters – Brielle, 13, and Ariana, 8 – talks about her relationship, a brand new song and wig line.

So you’re officially with Big Poppa?
We’re doing great. He’s fantastic. It’s been so on and off in the last two years, but the entertainment industry is really difficult and takes a toll on relationships. People are so fascinated with any part that has to do with my personal life. And it’s just that. You want to talk about my kids, I’ll do it all day long. You want to talk about my wig line, I’ll do it all day long. But this stuff … it just really makes me laugh.

Is he divorced yet?
He’s not legally divorced yet, and I haven’t told anybody that, so there you have it. He doesn’t live with his family like people think.

Does he live with you?
We’re … together a lot.

Real Housewives of Atlanta is between seasons. What are you working on right now?
My wig line is coming along amazing. I’m doing a celebrity VIP line first, and then I’ll launch the line for the public when I get the cost down. And something else I’m doing is writing a book on hair and makeup on a budget. And I have more music coming out, which is really great.

Your book and new music – are there timelines on those projects?
My next song is hopefully going to be out rather quickly. It goes right along with “Tardy for the Party.” … And my book, hopefully by August. It’s hard to get a book together and do a show and raise kids. … I get so many requests on skin care and makeup that I just kind of ran with it. It’s where my passion lies – makeup and hair.

Tell me about the song. What’s it called?
“The Ring Didn’t Mean a Thing.” We’re working on it as we speak. I’ve bounced it around, Tracy does a version, and I would love Kandi to finish up the lyrics and make it perfect. The reality of the song and the meaning behind it is the simple fact is the bling only means so much – the cars and the lifestyle only mean so much to me. I would be lying to tell you I don’t love nice things. However, it doesn’t keep me with somebody. And that pretty much is the concept of the song.

Do you have a publisher for your book yet?
I have a ghostwriter who’s doing it with me and she’s handling all of that. She’s written several books with other . I’m excited about it.

Are you getting used to your celebrity status by now?
I have two girls in middle school and that’s what forget a lot of the time. They’re my top priority. I could say a thousand things right now, but I’m trying to lay low right now. Every day it’s something new and it cracks me up. There are 40 paparazzi waiting for me the airport. And to think I wanted this so bad. But I wanted it, and I wanted to be exactly where I’m at.