Entertainment TV Separate Lives? Kendra Wilkinson Has 'Handled Business' While Hank Baskett 'Handled the Home' "Kendra's personality is much more proactive and commanding, but Hank has a quiet strength," a source close to the couple tells PEOPLE By Melody Chiu Melody Chiu Instagram Twitter Melody Chiu is a Senior Editor for PEOPLE. She has been with the brand since 2009, editing, writing and reporting across all entertainment verticals. She oversees PEOPLE's music and events coverage and has written cover stories on Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, Melissa McCarthy, Blake Shelton and Sandra Oh. The Los Angeles native graduated from the University of Southern California and has appeared on Extra!, The Talk, Access Hollywood and Good Morning America. People Editorial Guidelines and Aili Nahas Aili Nahas Aili Nahas is the West Coast Deputy News Editor at PEOPLE. She is also the TV deputy in Los Angeles as well as the Weddings Editor. Aili has spent nearly two decades in the entertainment industry and 12 years at PEOPLE. People Editorial Guidelines Published on March 29, 2018 05:30 PM Share Tweet Pin Email Though their marriage is under strain, Kendra Wilkinson Baskett and Hank Baskett have kept their children a priority — even though they have different parenting styles. “Kendra’s personality is much more proactive and commanding, but Hank has a quiet strength,” a source close to the couple tells PEOPLE. “They’re honestly both incredible, devoted, hands-on parents. They don’t miss practices or life moments and will do anything to protect their kids.” “If you really had to say who’s more hands-on — and this is purely because parenting is a partnership — after Hank retired [from the NFL in 2011], Kendra handled business and Hank handled the home,” says the source, noting that no one doubts the couple’s commitment as parents. “Their kids are first for them,” adds the source. Kendra Wilkinson & Hank Baskett Don’t Want to ‘Traumatize’ Their Kids as They Prepare to Separate Kendra, 32, and Hank, 35, wed in 2009 and share son Hank IV, 8, and daughter Alijah, 3. Their marriage was rocked by scandal four years when Hank allegedly had an affair with a transgender model while Kendra was eight months pregnant. But according to another source, the former football player remains “an amazing father.” “Their family is so important to both of them,” says the source. “Whatever happens, they’ll stay close because their kids mean too much to them. They’ll always be in each other’s lives.” Scandal, Lost Trust and Marital Problems — Kendra Wilkinson Baskett and Hank’s Highs & Lows Ari Perilstein/Getty The Wilkinson-Baskett family Though the couple remained committed to each another in the wake of the scandal and attempted to make their relationship work, it hasn’t been easy — particularly as they lived apart while she worked in Las Vegas for months last year. Last month, Kendra admitted to having “marital problems” — and this week, a source told PEOPLE the couple is preparing to split. Want to keep up on the latest from PEOPLE? Sign up for our daily newsletter to get our best stories of the day delivered straight to your inbox. “Kendra is just not happy,” said the insider. “She’s always been someone who wanted to be fully committed, married forever, and was definitely a ‘I’ll never get a divorce’ kind of girl, but she really lost trust in her marriage and she’s realized there’s no turning back.” Updated by Aurelie Corinthios