The couple got engaged in August 2016

By Natalie Stone
January 22, 2020 03:07 PM
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After more than a decade-long relationship, Jesse Metcalfe and Cara Santana have split.

A source tells PEOPLE that the Desperate Housewives actor and the actress-fashion blogger went their separate ways three weeks ago.

However, another source close to Santana tells PEOPLE that the pair didn’t break up until Wednesday.

“She was wearing her ring yesterday,” the source close to Santana says. “She had no idea things weren’t fine until she saw the photos online today. I promise they never broke up until today.”

“Cara is not going to comment and asks that everyone please respect her privacy at this time,” a rep for Santana tells PEOPLE.

News of their split comes days after Metcalfe, 41, was photographed getting cozy with a woman at a bar in Sherman Oaks, California, over the weekend.

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In photos obtained by Daily Mail, Metcalfe was captured with his arms wrapped around a blonde woman and appeared to kiss her cheek. Earlier that same day, Metcalfe was photographed leaving a lunch hand-in-hand with Hungarian model Livia Pillmann, the outlet reported.

Metcalfe and Santana, 35, who have been in a relationship for more than 10 years, got engaged in August 2016.

In September of that year, Santana told PEOPLE that she and the John Tucker Must Die actor were planning on getting married in 2018.

“We’re going to get married in September 2018, so I’m going to start planning this time next year,” Santana told PEOPLE at the WEI Beauty Detoxifying Skincare Line luncheon hosted by Jaime King and Jamie Chung in Hollywood.

Although she hadn’t started wedding planning at the time, Santana did have a few ideas in mind.

“Small, intimate, 80 people, Martha’s Vineyard – call it a day,” she said of the couple’s special day.

One month after getting engaged, Santana said she was feeling at peace.

“I think there’s a sense of calm,” she shared.

“There’s a sense of unspoken security that when you’re not engaged maybe there’s like an underlying uncertainty,” she continued.

“Now that we’re engaged I feel this total sense of calmness,” she shared. “Like we’ll get to the wedding. We’ve got the rest of our lives.”

Metcalfe and Santana spent Christmas 2019 in Belgium and last appeared on a red carpet together at The Art Of Elysium Presents We Are Hear’s Heaven 2020 event on Jan. 4 in Los Angeles.