From Finding Love at the Shore to Alleged Abuse: JWoww and Roger Mathews' Relationship Timeline
The Jersey Shore star, who filed for divorce in September, has accused her estranged husband of physical and emotional abuse
It’s been a wild journey for Jenni “JWoww” Farley and her husband Roger Mathews.
Nearly four months after filing for divorce, the Jersey Shore star has spoken out about her relationship with Mathews for the first time, accusing her ex of physical and emotional abuse.
On Wednesday, Farley released footage that allegedly shows Mathews attacking her. In the clip, a man, who appears to be Mathews, can be seen shoving a woman, presumably Farley, to the ground in the kitchen of a home.
In addition, Farley, 32, released a statement addressed to Mathews, 43, regarding their impending divorce.
“I wanted to handle this out of the spotlight because our silence is their greater good. Even when you tried to disgrace my name, make false accusations and even point-blank lie… I still remained silent as challenging as it was… why? Because, greater good,” she said. “But I can no longer sit idly by while you mistreat and malign me in such an egregious manner.”
A rep for Mathews declined to comment on the allegations.
Here’s a look back at their relationship.
2010: Romance Blossoms
The pair first began dating in 2010 after meeting in Seaside Heights, New Jersey, while Farley was filming the first season of Jersey Shore.
In an interview with Zap2it in 2013, Farley admitted that when they first met, Mathews didn’t make the biggest impression: He was just “one of the faces in the crowd, like, ‘What’s up, hi, goodbye,’ ” she said.
September 2012: Engaged
After over two years of dating, Matthews popped the question after the couple went skydiving, presenting the star with a pink and white diamond engagement ring that boasts roughly 7.5 carats. At the time, Farley was filming her MTV spin-off, Snooki & JWoww.
“[Roger’s] dad is dying for us to get married,” Farley told PEOPLE just a few months before Matthews proposed. “He wants grandchildren. He texts me almost every day for that.”
“There’s no rush, no trophy for being first. But do we want to get married? Oh yeah. Absolutely,” Mathews remarked.
“I just want a big ring,” Farley added. “That’s all I care about — a big ring.”
July 2014: First Comes Love, then Comes Baby
A year and a half after the couple got engaged, they welcomed their first child together, daughter Meilani Alexandra.
“She is here! 7 lbs., 13 oz. Words can’t describe what looking into your child’s eyes can do to you. I’m humbled,” Mathews announced via Twitter.
“Jenni and Roger are so excited to welcome the newest guidette to the world,” Farley’s rep told PEOPLE at the time. “Meilani and her parents are doing great and are happy and healthy. Meilani is already looking to trade her baby bottle for barbells.”
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October 2015: Wedding Bells
The duo tied the knot in October 2015 after nearly five years together in front of a group of family and friends that included her Jersey Shore costars Nicole “Snooki” Polizzi and Pauly “DJ Pauly D” DelVecchio, as well as Bachelorette alums Trista and Ryan Sutter.
“Our wedding was everything we could have dreamed of and more,” Farley told PEOPLE at the time. “It’s hard for me to determine which was my most favorite moment because there were so many WOW factors to our wedding.”
And while the couple was surrounded by their closest friends and family members, they decided to make one more happy announcement: they were expecting baby number two.
May 2016: Family of Four
The couple’s second child, son Greyson Valor Mathews, arrived on May 5, 2016.
“So blessed to welcome our precious son,” Farley wrote on Instagram. “He arrived healthy at 6:03pm tonight and the most beautiful part is Roger got to deliver him with our doctor. Our family is complete!”
Added Mathews, “What an amazing experience to literally witness the miracle of life from the very onset. He’s our little man, our perfect bundle of joy, the baby brother to an anxious little girl ready to met her Bubba. What a ride this this thing called life is ladies and gentlemen. Thank you for the love and support for our newest chapter. We are blessed and we pray health and happiness finds you in reading this.”
September 2018: It’s Over
“My wife filed for divorce, it’s true,” he said in the emotional video. “I don’t blame her. There’s no cheating or any dumb s— or any juicy details. She just grew tired of the repetitive pattern that we fell into… and [it was] not a good one.”
“Here’s what’s also true: I’m not done fighting,” he added. “I’m gonna win my wife back; I’m gonna win her affection back; I’m gonna win her love back. I have no intentions of being a single dad. We’re in counseling, so there is hope.”
Two days later, Mathews posted a cryptic message on Instagram, writing, “Sometimes we must find ourselves within ourselves. Finding yourself doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. It means coming to terms with shortcomings within yourself for the greater good. Not just the greater good of yourself. The greater good of those you care the most about.”
“Takes a lot of vulnerability and being able to accept shortcomings and that you were wrong even if your heart was in the right place. I still like me, just need to be a better me cause it ain’t just about me. Time. It’s the one thing we can’t get back. I’ve squandered some. Crawling into a hole or feeling bad for yourself never fixed s—…”
December 2018: Restraining Order Filing
In the wake of the split, the exes continued to spend time together as a family, even celebrating their three-year wedding anniversary in October and dressing up in matching costumes for Halloween. But by December, things took another turn for the worse when filed a restraining order against her estranged husband after the two got into an argument.
In a series of videos posted on Instagram Dec. 14, including several filmed in the back of a police car, Mathews alleged Farley was “hysterically shouting” at him and threatened to call the cops while they were fighting about her going back to work. Mathews said he called the police himself and after they left, he went out to record a podcast with a friend, then returned home and went to sleep without interacting with Farley. He alleges that he was woken up by police at 2 a.m. and removed from his home after being informed that Farley had contacted the judge and filed a restraining order against him.
Mathews also accused her of using their children as “pawns” and claimed Farley agreed to discuss their divorce on the upcoming season of Jersey Shore for an additional $70,000. (MTV did not respond to PEOPLE’s request for comment.)
Farley responded via a statement from her rep posted on Instagram:
“While Jenni has refrained from making any public statements relating to her impending divorce, in light of recent events we have decided to make an official statement. Certain events transpired last night which lead [sic] Jenni to involve the authorities, as she felt it was in her best interests, and the best interests of her children to do so. Any statements and social media posts depicting anything to the contrary are entirely false, misleading and intentionally designed to cast Jenni in a negative light.”
“She is proud to be a hardworking parent who provides for her children,” the statement continues. “While we have chosen not to comment further, we will note that a judge immediately ruled in Jenni’s favor and issued a temporary order of protection last night. Please respect Jenni’s decision for privacy in an effort to protect herself and her children during this time.”
A spokesperson for the Toms River Police Department also confirmed the news to PEOPLE, stating that police were dispatched to the couple’s home at approximately 1 a.m. “for a civil matter.”
“Mr. Mathews was served with a Temporary Restraining Order and provided transportation to another location,” said the spokesperson.
According to the police report obtained by PEOPLE, Farley told officers that Mathews called her a “piece of s— mother” and was threatening to post videos of her on the internet to “show everyone what a terrible mother she is.” She alleged that Mathews “frequently records her with his cell phone, threatening to post it to the internet,” according to the report.
According to the report, Farley told officers she did not wish to seek a temporary restraining order and Mathews left the residence, announcing that he would be returning later that night. Shortly afterwards, the officers were dispatched back to the home, where Farley “stated that she had changed her mind about seeking a temporary restraining order, and now wished to obtain one.”
January 2019: Farley Speaks Out
In a lengthy statement posted to her website on Jan. 30, Farley alleged that what Mathews presents on social media is a lie.
“Your postings are consumed with inaccuracies, false statements, self-serving comments, outright misrepresentations and blatant lies,” Farley wrote.
She then referenced an alleged incident in which Mathews allegedly gave Greyson, who is highly allergic to gluten and dairy, pizza. “When I asked you about the food situation, you chose to berate me instead of acknowledging that Greyson’s health is of paramount concern,” she said. “You hurt the children and you hurt me. When will it end?”
The reality star also accused Mathews of having a video of her that he intended to use as blackmail against her after Farley’s restraining order filing. Despite the alleged incidents, Farley said she did her best to put on a brave face for their children and to let them know that she and Mathews are a unit.
“I clearly thought of us co-parenting well into the future as responsible parents should,” she said.
She concluded her statement with a message to victims of domestic violence.
“So many of you may be understandably afraid to come forward, and have been stuck in abusive relationships for far too long just as I have been. If anyone is feeling down, broken, hurt or lost, please know that it is not your fault.”
If you suspect domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or go tothehotline.org. All calls are toll-free and confidential. The hotline is available 24/7 in more than 170 languages.