Entertainment TV Ellen Pompeo Says 'Grey's Anatomy' Sex Scenes Were Initially 'Really Hard' for Her Husband: 'Poor Guy' "He was like, 'This is not what I signed up for,'" Ellen Pompeo said of husband Chris Ivery's reaction to seeing her steamy scenes with Patrick Dempsey By Glenn Garner Glenn Garner Instagram Twitter Glenn Garner is a Writer/Reporter who works heavily with PEOPLE's Movies and TV verticals. Since graduating from Northern Arizona University with a dual major in journalism and photography, he got his professional start at OUT Magazine, The Advocate and Teen Vogue, and he's since consistently kept his finger on the pulse of the LGBTQ community. His first book The Guncle Guide was released in 2020 and was featured on Katie Couric's list of 100 recommended books of the year. People Editorial Guidelines Published on July 31, 2021 03:00 PM Share Tweet Pin Email Photo: Allen Berezovsky/Getty Although many Grey's Anatomy fans were heartbroken when Patrick Dempsey exited the show in 2015, one viewer likely breathed a sigh of relief. Ellen Pompeo recently revealed husband Chris Ivery's initial reaction to seeing her share intimate scenes with Dempsey's McDreamy. "Poor guy had no idea what he was getting into," she said on the Ladies First with Laura Brown podcast. "I remember in the beginning it was really hard for him," Pompeo recounted. "He was like, 'This is not what I signed up for. You go to work and make out with that. I like Patrick and everything, he's a good dude, but like really?'" Grey's Anatomy: Meredith Grey & Derek Shepherd Have a Wedding Moment Before Saying Goodbye Again The Golden Globe nominee, 51, has played the titular Dr. Meredith Grey since the show premiered in 2005. Dempsey, 55, played her love interest and eventual husband, Dr. Derek Shepherd, until the character met a tragic end in season 11. Karen Neal/Walt Disney Television via Getty They recently shared one last scene, after Dempsey made a surprise return in season 17. "Patrick and I have this chemistry where I think even from when we first met, for some reason it just felt like we've known each other for a hundred years, and it's just the same feeling," Pompeo told Deadline in November. "It's like riding a bike, we just have a chemistry and a dynamic that's always served us well, and I think we have a genuine affection for each other," she added. The show was renewed for season 18 in May. RELATED VIDEO: Ellen Pompeo Opens Up About Interracial Marriage and Reverse Racism The actress met Ivery, 54, a music producer, at a grocery story in 2003, and they got married four years later in 2007, during an intimate City Hall ceremony in New York City. "We're blessed," Pompeo told PEOPLE of their marriage in January 2008, before Ivery chimed in: "I'm the real McDreamy!" Pompeo and Ivery share three kids — daughters Stella Luna, 11½, Sienna May, 6½, and son Eli Christopher, 4½.