The former Bachelorette disses JoJo s controversial suitor Chad
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It’s been three years since Desiree Hartsock met and fell in love with her husband, Chris Siegfried on her season of The Bachelorette. And now, the author and mom-to-be is doling out advice for current Bachelorette JoJo Fletcher.

“It can be really stressful to feel like you have to make a connection,” says Hartsock, 30, whose wedding planning guide, My Fairytale Wedding, is on stands now. “You can t put too much pressure on it.”

As for the guys? Hartsock, no stranger to villainous types (remember Ben Scott?), definitely didn’t get the warm and fuzzies from muscle man Chad Johnson, who was eliminated Monday night.

“He has a completely different idea of going about dating, life and himself,” Hartsock says. “He has a warped idea of what a gentleman is!”

On the plus side, “A lot of the guys are now growing on me for her,” says Hartsock. Namely? “I like Robby. He s a contender. The things he says to her are really sweet.”