Entertainment TV Dean McDermott Details How He Keeps His Marriage with Tori Spelling Hot: 'It's Still on' Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling wed back in 2006 and share six children together By Dave Quinn Dave Quinn Instagram Twitter Dave Quinn is an Editor for PEOPLE, working across a number of verticals including the Entertainment, Lifestyle and News teams. He joined in 2006 as a Writer/Reporter where he became known for his Bravo and Broadway exclusives across print and digital. Dave is the author of the No. 1 New York Times best-selling book, Not All Diamonds and Rosé: The Inside Story of the Real Housewives from the People Who Lived It. He's appeared on many broadcasts including ABC's Good Morning America, Bravo's Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen, E!'s Daily Pop, NBC's New York Live and PEOPLE's own Reality Check, as well as a number of podcasts like Bitch Sesh, Everything Iconic, Watch What Crappens, Hot Off the Mess, Mention It All, and PEOPLE Every Day. Prior to working at PEOPLE, Dave was the chief Theater Reporter for NBC New York and co-host of Entertainment Weekly's acclaimed TV Recaps series. People Editorial Guidelines Published on October 18, 2019 11:17 AM Share Tweet Pin Email After over a decade of marriage and with six kids between them, one might think that Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling’s sexual appetite for each other has settled down — but McDermott assures, “it’s still on.” During a visit to Mom Life with Adrianna Costa on Local Now, the 52-year-old actor revealed that he and Spelling still have palpable sexual chemistry, adding that he still looks at his BH90210 star wife with affection. Keeping that passion alive takes work, of course. Asked how they do it, McDermott stressed the importance of date nights. “You have to make it a priority to spend time together because you spend so much time focused on your kids, you forget about each other and each other’s needs,” he said. Showing affection is also key. “Just grabbing your husband or your wife out of nowhere and just for no reason, and kissing the nape of her neck and saying, ‘I love you so much, you’re so beautiful.’ Just being appreciated. Saying ‘You’re beautiful, you’re handsome.’ Just looking in their eyes.” All in all, you have to prioritize your relationship, McDermott said. “[Be] aware of it. It’s so easy to throw it in the back, but you’ve got to bring it to the forefront. Dean McDermott Says Tori Spelling Has Role-Played as Her 90210 Character Donna Martin in Bed McDermott was on Cost’s show to talk about Daddy Issues, his podcast with Adam Hunter and Nicky Paris. “We’re really coming from the perspective where dads are more hands-on than they ever were,” McDermott said. “So we have that kind of knowledge now, where before, we didn’t and we didn’t talk about what diapers to use or what formulas to use, because we weren’t around that much. The tides have changed and it’s given us this great platform to talk about being a dad.” Said Paris: “I’m not a parent, but I think there’s something for everybody to listen to, whether you’re a parent or not. We all have issues and we’ve all been scarred by our parents in one way or another.” Dean McDermott Reveals He and Tori Spelling Use CBD Lube for Sex: ‘It’s Amazing’ Rich Polk/Getty Tori Spelling Claps Back at Criticism Over Letting Daughters Dye Their Hair: ‘Screw the Shamers’ McDermott and Spelling, 46, wed back in 2006. They’re parents to children Liam Aaron, 12, Stella Doreen, 11, Hattie Margaret, 8, Finn Davey, 7, Beau Dean, 2, and 21-year-old Jack Montgomery — who is McDermott’s son with his ex-wife, Mary Jo Eustace. Lately, McDermott has been opening up more about he and Spelling’s sex life. In an August episode of Daddy Issues, McDermott said that he and Spelling have role played in the bedroom. Specifically, she’s reprised her role as Donna Martin, the character she made famous on Beverly Hills, 90210 and its reboot, BH90210. “Yeah, she’s dressed up like Donna Martin,” he said. “And it’s f—ing awesome.” “She looked hot,” McDermott added. “I had a crush on Tori on the show, and so to see the flashbacks [on BH92010], I put it in the spank bank.” Tori Spelling Talks Filming BH90210 — ‘Sometimes It Feels Like We’re Back in High School’ Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott. Alberto E. Rodriguez/Getty Dean McDermott Slams ‘Coward’ Internet ‘Trolls’ Criticizing Wife Tori Spelling’s Bikini Photo That same month, McDermott revealed on his show that he and Spelling have sex “every day” and use CBD lube. “It’s great,” he said. “You just put it on, and the vagina gets tighter, and then you last longer.” In other NSFW news, McDermott said he has the words “Tori’s” tattooed above his genital area.