By People Staff
Updated December 01, 2020 03:51 PM
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In January, Jacqueline Laurita‘s daughter Ashley Holmes was found guilty of assaulting costar Danielle Staub, following a hair-pulling incident that will play out on the July 12 episode of The Real Housewives of New Jersey.

Now, Staub says she can relate to her costar’s daughter, who’s also been in verbal fights with her mom on the show.

“I was there at one point in my life,” Staub told PEOPLE at Target’s Party for Good benefiting the Food Bank For New York City. “I can see in her a lot of what I was headed towards.”

On the show’s first season, scandalous details of Staub’s past were revealed, including her arrest in 1986, when she was charged as an accessory in a kidnap and ransom plot.

Though Laurita tried to stand up for Staub on the explosive season 1 finale, the women were no longer friends when season 2 began. Since then Staub, 46, and Holmes, 19, began a Facebook feud on a recent episode and a trailer teases there’s more drama to come, including the incident that led to the teen’s assault charge.

“Hopefully she’s at that crossroads where she ll take the high road and she ll make the right choices,” Staub said.

She added that she prays that all the children of The Real Housewives of New Jersey won’t go down the road that she followed when she was young. (Laurita also has two sons Nicholas, 1, and CJ, 7; Caroline Manzo has three children Albie, 24; Lauren, 22; and Christopher, 21; Teresa Giudice has four daughters Gia, 9, Gabriella, 5, Milania, 4, and Adriana, born last September).

“I’d hate to see any of their children make the decisions I made that were wrong at such an early age in their life,” Staub said. “It ll change them forever.”