"She can't believe she's in this place again," a source tells PEOPLE

By Aili Nahas and Ally Mauch
January 21, 2021 02:52 PM

Days after Dale Moss announced on Instagram that he and fiancée Clare Crawley were going their separate ways, a source tells PEOPLE that the former Bachelorette is still reeling.

"Clare feels blindsided by the split," the source says. "She genuinely thought they could make things work and after everything she's been through, she can't believe she's in this place again."

Adds the insider, "It's been extremely painful and emotional."

Moss — who proposed last summer, just two weeks into Crawley's season of The Bachelorette announced the end of their short-lived engagement Tuesday on Instagram.

Crawley, 39, broke her silence Thursday on the news, saying she only learned that Moss would be announcing their breakup after he posted about it.

"I was made aware of a 'mutual' statement at the same time you all were, so I've needed some time to really digest this," she began. "Speaking for myself, my intentions with this relationship have always been very clear, so the truth is I am crushed."

"This was not what I expected or hoped for and am still trying to process this," she continued. "2020 was one hell of a year, with COVID, battling severe anxiety post-show, balancing a public new relationship, all while slowly losing my mother. It hasn't been ideal circumstances, but that is life right. I have been looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel."

Concluding, she acknowledged their "relationship was not perfect," but said she "was genuinely invested with all of my heart."

"I may not have all the answers, but I do know this — I will continue to show up, stand by my word, and be committed to love," she concluded.

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In his statement, Moss, 32, said he and Crawley had "decided to go our separate ways."

"We appreciate the love and support we've received from so many people, but this is the healthiest decision for both of us at this time," he continued. "We strongly believe in leading with love and always remaining true to oneself — something our families have taught and instilled in us throughout our lives. We only hope the best things for one another."

Following the news, a source told PEOPLE that Moss was not ready to take the next steps in the relationship.

"Dale wasn't ready for marriage and kids," the source said. "He did have feelings for Clare but he wasn't on the same page as her."

According to the source, Crawley "was really hoping he would grow in the relationship and come around," but "things only got tougher after the show when they had to start making big life decisions."