The actor shares an excerpt from his new book, Yes, My Accent Is Real, exclusively with PEOPLE

By Patrick Gomez
Updated September 11, 2015 12:40 PM
Credit: Ramona Rosales

When Kunal Nayyar‘s future wife came to visit him for the first time, he had a few things on his mind that made him nervous.

“I was living in a loft divided only by curtains. Would the curtains freak her out?” the Big Bang Theory star writes in his new book of essays, Yes, My Accent Is Real, which is excerpted exclusively in the latest issue of PEOPLE.

But he wasn’t just worried about himself.

“What if she had weird feet?” he continues. “I’m not proud to admit this, but weird feet are pretty close to a deal-breaker for me.”

Not that this fear was specific to Neha, who, as Nayyar describes her to PEOPLE, is a “beautiful former Miss India.”

“I should clarify that almost all feet are weird feet,” he writes. “Also the sound of people wearing flip-flops drives me batty. Flip-flops should be banned.”

But Nayyar was willing to push past his fear, which is good, because less than three years later he and Neha would wed at a week-long celebration in their native New Delhi.

“I don’t think I would have found Neha if I hadn’t been willing to risk failure,” he writes. “You can’t find love if you’re not willing to lose it. You can’t find the love of your life without risking breaking your heart. Dive in.”

For more from Nayyar – including the exclusive excerpt from Yes, My Accent Is Real – pick up the latest issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands now

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