The former contestant chats about his new girlfriend and his advice for the next round of Bachelor in Paradise competitors

By Emily Zauzmer
Updated June 09, 2015 02:30 PM
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Vacation season is upon us, but not everyone is eager to book a ticket to Paradise.

Graham Bunn, the season-four Bachelorette contestant who has since competed for love on Bachelor Pad and Bachelor in Paradise, shot down assumptions that he plans to return to Bachelor in Paradise.

“They did express some interest,” Bunn tells PEOPLE at the launch of the Lycos Life & the Lycos Life Project in Hollywood on Monday night, “but I’m actually dating a very lovely lady that I like very much. So I did not need to go back to Paradise. I think people have had enough of me. I’ve been on a few shows.”

Who is the lucky lady? Bunn, 36, has taken to social media to show off his new romance with Jessica Roberts, a friend of Bunn before he asked her on a date. “She’s great,” he comments. “She’s very supportive. She has a charity background as well. I’m very happy, very lucky. [I’m] just trying to live a normal life.”

As supportive as Roberts may be, she does avoid watching Bunn’s stint on The Bachelorette and its spin-off shows. “I will not watch that,” she says. “I knew him before those days.” Bunn also refrains from watching the show these days. He explains, “I don’t catch The Bachelorette too much because I work early [and] have to be up at 4:30 in the morning.”

While Bunn has no plans to pack his bags and fly to Paradise, he does have tips for the men and women who want to give it a shot: “Make sure that you be yourself, and don’t sacrifice. At the end of day, the show is only the show, and you go back to being who you were before that,” Bunn advises. “So if you’re kind of representing something that you’re not, it’s going to get real tiresome to keep doing that the rest of your life.”

Bob Guiney, another Bachelor veteran, was also on hand at the launch party, where he told PEOPLE about his dismay over the current season’s line-up of men vying for Kaitlyn Bristowe‘s heart.

“I don’t really like a lot of the guys this season,” Guiney told PEOPLE. “I feel like, for such a cool girl, they could’ve done a better job casting it.”