In Their Own Words: 3 Signs There Was Trouble Between The Bachelor's Chris Soules and Whitney Bischoff
When it came to choosing between Bischoff and Becca Tilley, Soules said the decision came down to "logic"
When it comes to couples who found love on The Bachelor and its various franchises, history has shown that the odds are against an everlasting union.
However, for those of the Bachelor Nation who watched Chris Soules fall in love with Whitney Bischoff, a fertility nurse from Chicago, the news of their split following a 6-month engagement was a genuine surprise. Well, mostly.
PEOPLE spoke to the couple two days before the 19th season finale of The Bachelor revealed that Soules had chosen Bischoff over chiropractic assistant Becca Tilley, and some of their answers – in the cold light of day – appear to hint at the inevitability of a breakup just two months later.
During his season, even Soules’ father said that Whitney was a "sure thing" but that Tilley was the one his son really wanted. However, Tilley found herself unable to commit to the L-word or to the promise that she’d move to Soules’ hometown of Arlington, Iowa, should he propose.
Talking to PEOPLE, Soules said that a relationship with Tilley would have been a “challenge” due to the distance and the fact that she had never been in a relationship before. “I was falling in love with both of them at the same time,” he said. “So, you’re looking for – to a certain extent – a sign as to what is right. I think you have to use logic in any relationship and looking at Whitney’s situation and looking at her being in Chicago and being career-oriented and ready to settle down, those sorts of things are really attractive to me.”
Added Soules: “Logically, our relationship makes a lot of sense. And I had similar feelings for both of them.”
Naturally, a match made on The Bachelor is not one you want to rush – given the short timeframe these couples have to get to know each other, setting a wedding date is often not as high a priority as getting to know how your significant other takes their coffee.
That said, despite Bischoff’s enthusiastic insistence during her time on the show that she fully intended to move to Arlington, she and Soules were more reticent in their chat with PEOPLE.
“We haven’t really gotten there yet,” said Bischoff when asked about relocating to Arlington. “I think we’re just taking it step by step. I don’t think you can put a time limit on something like that. I don’t think it can be forced. There can’t be any pressure with it. When we feel it, it will happen.”
Though Soules made it clear that he loved Bischoff’s “driven” nature, he did admit that, “to a certain extent,” he’d want a wife who had a career both at home and away. “Someone who has been there, done that and now wants to spend the next chapter as a mother. Whether it’s a stay-at-home mother or not, It doesn’t have to be.”
He also added that he’d want Bischoff to be “happy” no matter what; however, he also said that his three older sisters “have all been lucky enough to be stay-at-home mothers and that’s a great thing but not everybody can do that, financially, but I think it’s a blessing to be able to.
“You can always go back to your career. Stay-at-home dads, too, though that is something I don’t plan on being.”
Soules and Bischoff ended their six-month engagement “with nothing but respect and admiration for one another and will continue to be supportive friends,” read a joint statement released to PEOPLE about their split. “They wish to thank everyone who has supported them through this journey.”