Everything Tom Brady & Gisele Bündchen Have Said About Their Marriage
On Marriage Counseling
Brady revealed that he and Bündchen saw a marriage counselor when they hit a rough patch in their relationship a few years ago.
“[Gisele] didn’t feel like I was doing my part for the family,” Brady said during an interview with Howard Stern on his SiriusXM show in April 2020. “She felt like I would play football all season and she would take care of the house, and then all of a sudden when the season ended, I’d be like, ‘Great, let me get into all of my other business activities. Let me get into my football training,’ and she’s sitting there going, ‘Well when are you going to do things for the house? When are you going to take the kids to school and do that?’ ”
Brady said that it was a wake-up call for him, adding, “that was a big part of our marriage that I had to like check myself because she was like ‘I have goals and dreams too.’ ”
On Prioritizing Family Time
During the same April 2020 interview with Stern, Brady also revealed that he had felt “resentful” at first over Bündchen’s issues with their relationship. He admitted that at first, making a change wasn’t easy, but it wasn't until Bündchen wrote him a letter expressing her thoughts on their relationship when he decided to check himself and his role in his marriage and family.
“She actually wrote me a letter, and it was a very thought out letter that she wrote to me and I still have it and I keep it in a drawer and I read it,” he said. “It’s a very heartfelt letter for her to say this is where I’m at in our marriage, and it’s a good reminder for me that things are going to change and evolve over time. What happened and what worked for us 10 years ago won’t work for us forever because we are growing in different ways.”
Brady said that fixing their issues came down to finding a balance.
“The point of a relationship is that it has to work for both [partners],” he said. “You better work on both because if you don’t then it’s not sustainable.”
On 10 Years of Love
"I can’t believe it’s already been 10 years since we’ve chosen to walk this life together… and what incredible 10 years we’ve had!" the supermodel wrote. "There is nothing that I love more in this world than you and our family," she added.
Brady shared a photo of them embracing at their wedding, writing, "Ten years ago, I didn’t realize how much I could love you and the family we created together. My heart is so full and I am so blessed!" he shared, adding, "I love you and I love our family! #bosslady."
On Being a Blended Family
Bündchen got candid about motherhood when she answered fan questions in a series of videos shared on her Instagram Stories in February 2020.
When asked about how it feels “being a stepmom” to 12-year-old son John “Jack” Edward Thomas — whom Brady shares with ex Bridget Moynahan — Bündchen told her followers that she doesn’t like using that term to describe herself.
“I don’t like the word 'stepmom,' ” she said. “I like the word ‘bonus mom’ because I feel like it’s a blessing in my life. I feel so lucky that I got to have an extra wonderful little angel in my life.”
On Embracing Each Other's Pasts
In the September 2019 cover story for Men’s Health, Brady talked about how his wife's unconventional childhood impacted her outlook on life — and his.
“Gisele’s life has been very nontraditional. She left home when she was 14; she lived in Japan at 16 in an era with no cell phones. She lived in New York at 17 without speaking English,” the father of three said.
“In her mind, there are no boundaries. ‘Why can’t you do that? Why do you have to go to school? Why can’t you just leave and live in a different country?’ ” he added. “In her reality, you can.”
“Coming from mine, it was very different. This is what you do: You go to elementary school, you go to college,” he said. “In her mind, why do you have to do any of those things?”
“And you know what, she’s right,” he added. “I’m the one that had to go, ‘You’re right!’ And that’s helped me grow.”