Entertainment Sports Everything Tom Brady & Gisele Bündchen Have Said About Their Marriage The couple, who are set to divorce, have often opened up about their ups and downs By Diane J. Cho Diane J. Cho Diane J. Cho was the Features Editor of PEOPLE Digital from 2019 to 2022. She worked at the brand for nearly four years covering news, features, human interest, evergreen, holiday gift guides and more. She launched the How I Parent and What It's Really Like to Be …. digital series and has interviewed several celebrities and influential leaders within the entertainment industry. Prior to joining PEOPLE, Diane worked at Bustle, VH1 and Complex. She received her bachelor's degree in Journalism from Rutgers University and her master's degree from Columbia Journalism School. People Editorial Guidelines Updated on October 28, 2022 10:50 AM Share Tweet Pin Email Trending Videos 01 of 08 On the Intersection of Career and Kids Tom Brady, Gisele Bundchen. Gisele Bundchen/Instagram "When I was 25, all I did was think about football. That was my life. It was eat, sleep, drink football. It was my profession, it was my career," Brady said on a September 2022 episode of his SiriusXM podcast Let's Go! "And then over time, other priorities develop because you change and evolve through life and you grow in different ways. So you take on these different responsibilities, of family and commitment and so forth. And you commit time and energy to those things." "You can't stop your life even though sports is happening," he added. "Even though I'm playing in my 23rd year, I have a freshman in high school that is playing football, too. I have a 12 year old that is going through his life. I have a 9 year old that is going through her life. And I have parents." He continued, "I have a lot of things that are really important off-field pursuits and goals that you are trying to maximize as well. So we all have different things that are going on, and I think once football season comes I really lock in on what I need to do and how I need to focus and the kind of commitment I need to make for the organization so we can maximize our potential as a team." 02 of 08 On the Sports and Family Balance Gisele Bundchen Instagram "Obviously, I have my concerns — this is a very violent sport, and I have my children and I would like him to be more present," Bündchen told ELLE in October 2022. "I have definitely had those conversations with him over and over again. But ultimately, I feel that everybody has to make a decision that works for [them]. He needs to follow his joy, too." "We have to think about what we're doing, how moments that were really shaping who they are as people," she continued of parenting. "I feel very fulfilled in that way, as a mother and as a wife." "I've done my part, which is [to] be there for [Tom]," she stated. "I moved to Boston, and I focused on creating a cocoon and a loving environment for my children to grow up in and to be there supporting him and his dreams." She continued, "Seeing my children succeed and become the beautiful little humans that they are, seeing him succeed, and being fulfilled in his career — it makes me happy. At this point in my life, I feel like I've done a good job on that." 03 of 08 On Who Does What Tom Brady and Gisele Bündchen. George Pimentel/Getty Images In a May 2022 interview with Vogue UK, Bündchen hinted at the pair's unique dynamic. "I don't think relationships just happen; it's never the fairy tale people want to believe it is. It takes work to be really in sync with someone, especially after you have kids," she told the outlet. Added the former Victoria's Secret Angel: "His focus is on his career, mine is mostly on the kids. And I'm very grateful that he lets me take the reins when it comes to our family. He trusts my decisions." 04 of 08 On Marriage Counseling Tom Brady, Gisele Bundchen. Brady revealed that he and Bündchen saw a marriage counselor when they hit a rough patch in their relationship a few years ago. "[Gisele] didn't feel like I was doing my part for the family," Brady said during an interview with Howard Stern on his SiriusXM show in April 2020. "She felt like I would play football all season and she would take care of the house, and then all of a sudden when the season ended, I'd be like, 'Great, let me get into all of my other business activities. Let me get into my football training,' and she's sitting there going, 'Well when are you going to do things for the house? When are you going to take the kids to school and do that?' " Brady said that it was a wake-up call for him, adding, "that was a big part of our marriage that I had to like check myself because she was like 'I have goals and dreams too.' " 05 of 08 On Prioritizing Family Time Tom and Gisele. Stefanie Keenan/Getty During the same April 2020 interview with Stern, Brady also revealed that he had felt "resentful" at first over Bündchen's issues with their relationship. He admitted that at first, making a change wasn't easy, but it wasn't until Bündchen wrote him a letter expressing her thoughts on their relationship when he decided to check himself and his role in his marriage and family. "She actually wrote me a letter, and it was a very thought out letter that she wrote to me and I still have it and I keep it in a drawer and I read it," he said. "It's a very heartfelt letter for her to say this is where I'm at in our marriage, and it's a good reminder for me that things are going to change and evolve over time. What happened and what worked for us 10 years ago won't work for us forever because we are growing in different ways." Brady said that fixing their issues came down to finding a balance. "The point of a relationship is that it has to work for both [partners]," he said. "You better work on both because if you don't then it's not sustainable." 06 of 08 On 10 Years of Love Tom Brady/Instagram Bündchen and Brady celebrated one decade of marriage on Feb. 26, 2019. They reflected on their journeys together, which they shared to Instagram. "I can't believe it's already been 10 years since we've chosen to walk this life together… and what incredible 10 years we've had!" the supermodel wrote. "There is nothing that I love more in this world than you and our family," she added. Brady shared a photo of them embracing at their wedding, writing, "Ten years ago, I didn't realize how much I could love you and the family we created together. My heart is so full and I am so blessed!" he shared, adding, "I love you and I love our family! #bosslady." 07 of 08 On Being a Blended Family Tom Brady and family. Tom Brady/Instagram Bündchen got candid about motherhood when she answered fan questions in a series of videos shared on her Instagram Stories in February 2020. When asked about how it feels "being a stepmom" to 15-year-old son John "Jack" Edward Thomas - whom Brady shares with ex Bridget Moynahan - Bündchen told her followers that she doesn't like using that term to describe herself. "I don't like the word 'stepmom,' " she said. "I like the word 'bonus mom' because I feel like it's a blessing in my life. I feel so lucky that I got to have an extra wonderful little angel in my life." 08 of 08 On Embracing Each Other's Pasts Giselle Bundchen/Instagram In the September 2019 cover story for Men's Health, Brady talked about how his wife's unconventional childhood impacted her outlook on life - and his. "Gisele's life has been very nontraditional. She left home when she was 14; she lived in Japan at 16 in an era with no cell phones. She lived in New York at 17 without speaking English," the father of three said. "In her mind, there are no boundaries. 'Why can't you do that? Why do you have to go to school? Why can't you just leave and live in a different country?' " he added. "In her reality, you can." "Coming from mine, it was very different. This is what you do: You go to elementary school, you go to college," he said. "In her mind, why do you have to do any of those things?" "And you know what, she's right," he added. "I'm the one that had to go, 'You're right!' And that's helped me grow."