"Kids are not only incredibly intelligent, but eventually they can make their mind up themselves," Kate Hudson said on Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser

By Jen Juneau
March 06, 2019 03:31 PM

You won’t hear Kate Hudson bad-mouthing her exes — especially in front of her children.

In a chat for the podcast Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser, released Monday, the 39-year-old actress and Fabletics co-founder said that her three kids are always the most important factor in her co-parenting relationships, revealing that she learned by example after her mother Goldie Hawn divorced Hudson’s father, Bill Hudson.

“The one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what you’re feeling and no matter what — when I see my friends talking s— about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don’t recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them,” she explained.

“No matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father,” Hudson revealed.

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“Kids are not only incredibly intelligent, but eventually they can make their mind up themselves,” she continued. “They will see with their own eyes whatever needs to be seen and they need to come to that on their own terms. It’s not our place to tell them how to feel about the other parents. I think that’s so important.”

“Your child wasn’t in that relationship,” the Fool’s Gold star points out. “Your child’s in a different relationship with their father. You need to support that relationship.”

In early October, Hudson gave birth to a baby girl, Rani Rose, with her boyfriend Danny Fujikawa. She is also mom to 7½-year-old son Bingham Hawn from her relationship with ex-fiancé Matt Bellamy and son Ryder Russell, 15, from her marriage to ex-husband Chris Robinson.

The Almost Famous actress also revealed on the podcast that her exes have a solid, positive dynamic not only with her, but among one other. “They all get along,” she said. “It’s funny and we laugh about it. I never thought my life would look like that, but it is what it is. All I care about is happy kids, and we all make that the priority.”

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The mother of three went on to share that a key component to co-parenting is making sure each parent has the same regulations under their roofs.

“Matt and I, we have a great way of talking to each other about Bing and instilling the same rules in the house. We find that to be really important for Bing to feel that there’s, ‘No, you’re not going to get away with anything in each other’s house. Mommy and Daddy are on the same page.’ ”

She also opined about how “time heals” even though “divorce is painful,” but as far as marriage goes, having children binds two people together perhaps even more.

“I had a child with Matt but we weren’t married. I say kids are marriage to me — if anything, that’s more than marriage,” Hudson said. “I would like to think that I’m doing the best I can to ensure that my kids feel that the unit is still strong even in divorce, and I hope that’s the right way forward.”