While some moms might feel threatened by the closeness their children share with a nanny, Tori Spelling instead feels gratitude.

“I never understood being competitive with a nanny,” she tells the June/July issue of Cookie magazine. “If you have someone you trust and who loves your kids, then what an amazing thing you’ve done for them.” Tori’s kids Liam Aaron, 2, and Stella Doreen, 11 months, have Patsy. “[She is] a baby nurse to them and like a mother figure to me,” Tori explains.

In fact, Tori views her unplanned pregnancy with Stella as a sign that Patsy was meant to stay on with their family longer. Tori also makes it a point to tell her kids about her own nanny growing up.

Spending two pregnancies very much in the public eye was eye-opening for Tori, 35, who says she frequently endured unsolicited belly rubs from strangers. “I would never do that to a pregnant woman — it’s a personal thing,” Tori says. “And if I did, I’d say, ‘Your belly is so cute, can I touch it?'” When fans would approach, however, they were not as considerate. “I couldn’t say, ‘Please don’t touch,’ because then it would be ‘What a bitch!'” she laments. “At a certain point, I just decided that Stella was getting a lot of love in there.” Unfortunately, her belly was fair game postpartum as well!

Click below to read about Tori’s ‘mama’s girl.’

The paparazzi were equally fixated. “The first time I went out after I had Liam…I remember trying to hold my stomach in, even though my muscles were shot to hell, because it’s not like they want a story, ‘Look at the happy couple, they just had a baby,'” Tori says. “They want, ‘Do you see her stomach? We thought she already had the baby.'” Tori keeps her perspective by reminding herself “the weeklies build you up to tear you down.” To that end, she notes:

The upside of celebrity, however, is the ability to provide memories for Liam and Stella that many moms can only dream of. For Christmas, Tori and husband Dean McDermott rented a snow machine — not unlike the snow Tori’s late father Aaron Spelling had trucked in one Christmas for her as a child. “As much as I wanted to be normal, as I look back, those big gestures were pretty amazing,” she says. “So we hosted an event for the Ronald McDonald House Charities and had real snow in our yard.”

As for Stella, Tori says “it turns out that [she] is a total mama’s girl.” When she learned that she was going to welcome a daughter, Tori admits that she was afraid given the rocky relationship she shares with her own mom Candy Spelling. Fortunately, her fears were unfounded. Tori adds,

Source: Cookie, June/July issue