By peoplestaff225
Updated April 19, 2010 04:00 PM

Ever mindful that fame is “fleeting,” Dean McDermott and Tori Spelling are striving to give their two children “as normal a life as we can,” the actors tell Babble.

“At this age, I don’t think it’s necessary” for son Liam Aaron, 3, and daughter Stella Doreen, 22 months, to stay grounded, Spelling explains before pointing out that “obviously, they realize there’s a lot of things going on around them that’s not like other kids.”

At the same time Spelling, 36, says it’s important for her children to realize “you’re not anyone based on what you’re born into.”

“We’re both on the same page in not taking any of this for granted,” McDermott, 43, adds. “We want to teach them how to be normal.”

Finding quality time as a family is sometimes a struggle, Spelling concedes, but she insists that the cameras which trail them for Tori & Dean: Home Sweet Hollywood “aren’t exactly the problem.” Instead, she says that the demands of her multiple careers as an actress, an author and a fashion designer are to blame.

“As a working mom, I try really hard to find that balance because I want it all,” Spelling says.

“I want to be the stay-at-home-mom who has dinner on the table and takes my kids to carpool. I hear other moms say, ‘I just dropped the kids off at school, and then I had time for a yoga class.’ I think, ‘What is that like?'”

While “it all sounds so inviting” to Spelling, she says she often wants more — a lot more!

“I want to run an empire,” she explains. “I love all my business ventures, so I struggle every day on how to blend the two. We get through it. I run on adrenaline, but I’d love to have more family time.”