July 19, 2010 04:00 PM

Courtesy SELF

Life as a single mom suits Bridget Moynahan just fine.

So says the actress in the August issue of SELF, explaining that she was always prepared to go the unconventional route.

“I never had the fantasy that I was going to get married and have three kids and live in a house with a white picket fence,” she insists.

“I couldn’t ask to be in a better place right now, and there were multiple things that made all this — having a beautiful son and work I’m proud of and supportive friends — come true.”

While Moynahan — mom to John Edward Thomas, 2½, with ex-boyfriend Tom Brady — is content to maintain the status quo, she says she wouldn’t choose to make Jack a big brother without a partner in the picture.

“While I’d love to have more children, I’m not sure I want another on my own,” she concedes. “One is portable; two are not.”

Noting that “being a mom, whether single or not, is not easy,” Moynahan, 39, says the media does young girls a disservice by presenting motherhood “as if it’s easy or painless.”

Quick to clarify that she’s not complaining, however, Moynahan remains grateful that Jack is “so well-adjusted” and that she hasn’t had to slow down since giving birth.

“Having a child didn’t hold me back from a career or a love life or traveling; it has enhanced my life,” she adds.

Her approach is rooted in positivity, which Moynahan says she relied on heavily in the wake of her split from Brady.

“It’s easy to bitch and to listen to your people bitch, so if someone going through a divorce asks me for advice, I say, ‘All the he said/she said stuff doesn’t matter. And your kid will pick up on that energy. Keep your kids the focus,'” she shares.

For now, Moynahan is looking forward to her upcoming television series — Blue Bloods, debuting this fall on CBS — and leading “a quiet life” with Jack, whom she hopes to raise “with a strong sense of self and integrity.”

“I don’t go out as much as I’d like because I don’t want my son to be involved in that,” she explains. “We do things privately, like reading Dr. Seuss, playing games and listening to music. That’s why you haven’t seen many photos of us. I don’t need to parade him around.”

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