Pregnant Katie Lowes Has 'No Idea' What Gender Her Son 'Will Identify As': I Just Want a 'Healthy and Happy' Baby
"I always thought I would have a girl first," expectant Scandal star Katie Lowes tells Fit Pregnancy and Baby for their October cover story
Katie Lowes‘ baby on the way is coming into a family of open hearts and minds.
“My husband [fellow actor Adam Shapiro] and I are aware, of course, that our son will be born with male parts. But we have no idea what he will identify as or what his sexual orientation will be,” explains Lowes, 35, who plays Quinn on the political drama — a character who is also pregnant.
“I wish, now more than ever, to just please let my son be healthy and happy and safe,” she adds. “That’s all that matters.”
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As far as a birth plan, the first-time mom-to-be is keeping an open mind — but she will be calling in a little extra support.
“I wanted a doula because it’s my first baby and I want to be able to call her when I’m going into labor so she can come over and help us go through the early stage,” says Lowes.
“My husband and I are both actors; we’re obviously dramatic. So we want someone who is able to say, ‘This is normal. You’re okay; let’s do another lap around the house. Let’s bounce on a ball, let’s walk down the street.’ ”
“That way I won’t rush to the hospital too soon,” she continues. “Then, when I’m officially freaked out, we’ll head to the hospital. But she’ll be there as our advocate and as someone who has gone through this many more times than we have.”
What about an epidural? Lowes says she’s going to take the decision about that “moment to moment,” explaining, “I could get to the final weeks and we could need a c-section. Am I going to want drugs? I’ll know when I know. But my doula reminds me that a lot of women have had babies.”
Shapiro surprised his wife with two cards to reveal their baby’s sex: one with a love letter about his excitement to become parents together, and the other that read, “It’s a boy!”
“In that moment, which only lasted for a minute, I realized, ‘My gosh, I’m an older sister, I take care of my whole family and plan everything. How is our first child a boy? That’s not what I know,’ ” Lowes recalls.
“I hadn’t realized, until then, that I always thought I would have a girl first. I have a little brother, and I feel very proud of my position in the family,” she explains. “I was projecting like crazy, but it was just my initial reaction and it quickly went away. A moment later, I was crying with happiness.”
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A self-admitted over-preparer, Lowes says she had “an easy time” getting pregnant after seeing an acupuncturist, who helped her get more in touch with her fertility — lucky, considering the actress needed to plan a bit for work.
“For me, having a baby was never going to be timed randomly,” she says. “I wanted to have mine while I was on Scandal. Kerry Washington is one of my best friends, and I’ve gotten to watch her go through motherhood.”