"I marched over, took the baby from her arms and asked her if she was crazy," read the anonymous letter, published on Slate's "Dear Prudence" advice column

By Jen Juneau
February 26, 2019 01:45 PM
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One mom is seeking advice after an alleged incident with her daughter’s daycare that left her fuming.

Consulting Slate‘s “Dear Prudence” advice column, the anonymous letter writer describes her situation as a single mother to a daughter she adopted, whom she feeds formula to because she cannot produce milk herself.

And while the provider “seemed amazing” at first and has two children of her own, “On the first day when I pulled out the formula and bottles, [she] wrinkled her nose and said, ‘You feed her that slop?’ ” the mom recalls.

“I ignored the barb (I’m used to it), gave a quick rundown and went on my way,” she adds.

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But after two months of bringing her baby girl to the in-home provider, she alleges something happened that disturbed her greatly — she caught the caregiver breastfeeding her daughter.

“When I got to the area of the house where my daughter was, I about fell over. The day care provider was NURSING MY BABY!” the letter reads. “I marched over, took the baby from her arms and asked her if she was crazy.”

“The provider said that she was saving my baby from chemicals I was trying to force into her body and I should thank her for doing it all these months!” she continues. “I didn’t say anything; I just grabbed the diaper bag and got the hell out of there.”

The letter writer then admits she isn’t sure what to do past switching providers, asking the column’s author Daniel Mallory Ortberg for guidance on whether to alert other parents and/or “make a huge blast on social media.”

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In response, Ortberg points out that while the baby is “safe and sound” that “If this isn’t worth reporting her to a supervising agency, I don’t know what is.”

“The whole point of providing daycare for working parents is saying, ‘You can trust me to keep your children safe and well-cared for, and I will act according to your wishes in your absence,’ not, ‘As soon as you walk out the door, I’m going to raise your child how I see fit,’ ” he opines. “This is a huge breach of trust, a total violation and absolutely worth reporting. Please do it.”

“If you’re not comfortable making a big splash on social media, that’s understandable — this is a very dramatic case, and I can imagine it making a lot of headlines that you might not want to be connected with, but she should absolutely be reported for this,” Ortberg advises.