Mila Kunis may be a self-described "bad mom" in her hit comedy and its upcoming Christmas-themed sequel, but she's determined not to be one in real life
The 34-year-old actress — who shares two kids with husband Ashton Kutcher: son Dimitri Portwood, 10 months, and daughter Wyatt Isabelle, 3 — opened up to Entertainment Tonight about her and Kutcher’s desire to raise open-minded children.
“Yeah, we’re not gonna raise a–holes. There’s enough a–holes in this world!” Kunis said. “We don’t need to contribute. But, you know, there’s some nice people.”
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One of the ways they go about that is not giving Wyatt and Dimitri Christmas presents — a decision they came to after their own parents showered the tiny tots with piles and piles of gifts.
“We’re instituting [no presents] this year because when the kids are [younger than] 1, it doesn’t really matter,” Kunis says. “Last year when we celebrated Christmas, Wyatt was 2, and it was too much. We didn’t give her anything — it was the grandparents. The kid no longer appreciates the one gift. They don’t even know what they’re expecting; they’re just expecting stuff.”
“We’ve told our parents, ‘We’re begging you — if you have to give her something, pick one gift. Otherwise, we’d like to take a charitable donation, to the Children’s Hospital or a pet [or] whatever you want,’ ” she adds.
The holidays were tough for Kunis to navigate at first. “I come from communist Russia, where you’re not allowed to be happy, so my holiday traditions are ‘be quiet,’ ” she jokes. “Coming to America is when you realize Christmas has a magical quality to it.”
“In Russia, back in the day, it was a very religious holiday, so you don’t celebrate Christmas if you’re not Christian and if you’re not at Mass,” she explains. “So, I being Jewish, was like, ‘Christmas is not for you.’ We come to America and we’re like, ‘Christmas is so inclusive.’ “
“We literally bought a Christmas tree,” Kunis continues. “So as far as tradition goes, my family’s big on any excuse to get the family together and get drunk. Whether it’s Easter, which we’ve now all accepted into our Jewish household, or Christmas, it doesn’t matter. It’s all family time, but having kids, we’re building up our own little versions of tradition.”
“I’m a little bit less stressed over what to anticipate. You’re still stressed out and there’s still the idea of the guilt of leaving your kids, but you know that they’ll be okay,” she explains. “Because I’ve already done it once and the kid doesn’t resent me, so I was like, ‘Okay, I think I can do this.’ “
“I also need to enlist help,” Kunis adds. “Working full time, my husband has moved his company here, so he works full time. We needed help.”
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Filming A Bad Moms Christmas in Atlanta with her kids in tow made things a bit easier on her “mobile tribe,” even if Kunis was constantly busy planning activities for the kids.
“I can write you a book on kid-friendly activities anywhere in the world,” she says. “Because that’s what we do. We used to be like, ‘What’s the coolest club?’ and [now] I’m like, ‘Let me tell you about the zoo in Atlanta and the bouncy house.’ There’s not one kid activity that I haven’t done yet with my child!”
“We have a public library card everywhere we go,” the star shares. “When it is really hot outside, we go to the library and read books.”
Somewhere between all of that, Kunis hits the gym. After all, unlike what many may think, her post-baby bod takes work. “Lots of gym-ing,” she says. “I hate someone who’s like, ‘This is all natural.’ Bulls—. It’s not natural.”