How Malin Akerman 'Finds the Silver Lining' in Divorce and Single Motherhood: 'I Roll with the Punches'
The actress says she "finds the silver lining" in every situation
You can thank Malin Akerman‘s dad for the actress’s sense of sunny optimism.
“You put my dad in a pile of [crap] and he will find the positive in it,” Akerman, 37, tells PEOPLE.
“I get that from him. I think everything happens for a reason. You just figure out why and you find the silver lining.”
And the star of Showtime’s Billions says she’s found her glass half-full philosophy to be particularly helpful when it comes to weathering life’s tougher moments, including the end of her six-year marriage in 2013.
“It was jarring at first,” says Akerman of her split from Roberto Zincone, with whom she shares 2½-year-old son Sebastian.
“It takes a minute to move through the emotions. But there is a beautiful thing about relationships where you grow each other to a point where you can’t grow each other any more.”
Continues Akerman: “You can’t control life. I roll with the punches. And ultimately, it’s like, ‘Where is the opportunity in this?’ And that’s been a nice way to look at it. Like, oh my God, I get to have so much special time with my son now.”
That includes mother-son trips to New York City, where Akerman films Billions. “He loves airplanes,” she says with a laugh. “And he’s been on sets since he was 3 months old. He’s been socialized from the get go!”
Akerman adds, “I want him to have a joyous childhood. Being a kid is such a special thing. I’m a big believer in discipline and consistency, but I don’t want him to take life too seriously. Of course I want him to have manners and respect, but I also want him to have fun. We have a joie de vivre vibe about everything.”
When it comes to dating, Akerman says she’d love a partner one day, though for now, she’s not “actively looking.”
Says the actress: “It’s hard because your heart is so full for your child, the next guy that comes along is going to have a lot of competition!”
Whatever does come, Akerman will, naturally, look on the bright side, even when it comes to a concept oft dreaded in Hollywood: aging.
“I’m so happy to be 37 and not in my 20s anymore,” she says. “I just feel like I really do know myself better than I ever have. I feel very lucky.”
Billions airs Sundays at 10 p.m. ET on Showtime.
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— Aili Nahas