The actress recommends kindness, pajamas and taking a long bath as survival tactics for motherhood
Liv Tyler body after baby

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Mom of three Liv Tyler, who welcomed daughter Lula Rose just last month, says she would rather focus on bonding with her “beautiful baby girl” than putting pressure on herself to lose baby weight.

“Just be kind to yourself,” the Empire Records actress tells PEOPLE of her advice to other new moms feeling the pressure, adding, “Everyone is different. Everyone’s body is different, everyone’s birth experience is different.”

“Some people’s body type is that they totally look normal right after [birth], and [for] others, it takes many months,” she continues. “But I think it’s best to focus on your health and the health of your baby and bonding.”

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When it comes to getting dressed in the morning, the actress-turned-fashion designer recommends “lot of pajamas!” adding that her favorites are “beautiful cotton or silk pajamas — loose things where you can’t see my belly too much because it’s that transitional period [where] I don’t think people can tell if you’re pregnant or you’re just chubby.”

Taking tips from his fashionable fiancée, Lula’s dad — sports agent David Gardner — even sported a pair of Tyler’s personalized pajamas in the latter’s Instagram post announcing the safe arrival of baby Lula.

After just launching a 12-piece capsule collection for the British brand Belstaff, juggling a big move to London and gearing up to start back on set for her HBO drama The Leftovers — not to mention being mom to Sailor Gene, 18 months, Milo, 11, and Gardner’s 9-year-old son Gray — Tyler struggles to find time for herself, just like any new mom.

“It’s the basic things like being able to go take a long bath and do a face mask or brush your teeth!” the Lord of the Rings alum admits.

Clearly grateful for a little recent pampering trip to the hair salon, the actress shared a picture of herself on Instagram earlier this month, with the caption “Ohhhh happy!!! Operation put mommy back together again!!!”

But Tyler admits it’s not always easy.

“In the early days, it’s so tricky to balance your time between taking care of your child and taking care of yourself so if you can have a little bit of help, it’s so nice,” she says.

And, says the native New Yorker, a little kindness toward fellow moms and dads — as well as yourself — goes a long way.

“I think it’s important for women to be supportive of each other,” she shares.

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Monique Jessen