Ladies of London airs Tuesdays (10 p.m. ET) on Bravo

By Lanford Beard
December 06, 2016 12:44 PM

Ladies of London star Marissa Hermer recently opened up to PEOPLE about her risky third pregnancy. Six months later, with Hermer is healthy and lavishing in baby bliss with daughter Sadie, her costars admit they were a bit apprehensive to reach out in the midst of the life-threatening ordeal.

“I had no idea what she was going through,” admits fellow American Juliet Angus, who has seen her fair share of tension with Hermer over two seasons of Ladies of London.

She continues, “When someone’s going through a rough patch, and you’re already not getting along so you’ve kind of been distant, you don’t just jump in.”

Brit Caroline Stanbury agrees: “You don’t ring the person that’s not so close to you.”

Says Angus, “That’s not organic. I’m not the person she wanted [at that time].”

Stanbury adds, “We love Marissa and wish her completely well, and that’s just too much for anyone to go through, but you’re just not the first phone call. I’m sure she has a line, and we’d be probably at the end of it.”

Hermer previously told PEOPLE that her pregnancy, which lasted only seven months and led to Sadie’s delivery being induced for both mother and baby’s health, was “a very rocky road.” Before her final hospital stay, Hermer even revealed, “I was up all night and I wrote letters to my family — ‘in the event of my death ….’ And that’s a very real, scary thing to go through.”

As a small silver lining, the trauma of a dangerous childbirth meant that Hermer was surprised to enjoy returning to film the Bravo reality show — bad blood and all.

“It was almost nice,” she shared. “There was a lot of drama in my own life on a medical level, and so it was sort of nice for me to escape to hear about the other [women’s] drama … just what the doctor ordered when I was kind of overwhelmed with my own drama.”

Ladies of London airs Tuesdays (10 p.m. ET) on Bravo.