Kate Hudson Opens Up About Relationships and Co-Parenting with the Fathers of Her Three Children
Kate Hudson opened up about divorce and co-parenting her three children in a new interview.
Hudson, 39, stopped by the podcast Divorce Sucks! with Laura Wasser for a new episode that was released on Monday, where the actress admitted of her co-parenting situation with the three fathers of her children, “As much as I would say I don’t recommend it to most, my situation is quite amazing.”
She also revealed her tricks for maintaining a healthy co-parenting relationship — including communication, self-sufficiency and always putting the kids first.
“When you get divorced, you’re still in a relationship,” Hudson said. “It’s just a different kind of relationship. You’re going to have good days, you’re going to have bad days, you’re going to have good weeks, bad weeks.”
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“I think it’s important for a woman — obviously, for me personally, I am self-sufficient,” she said. “I do not rely on my partners for any financial stability. I think that allowed me a little bit of freedom … [for it] to be a little bit easier for me to walk away from certain relationships and maintain a good relationship with my partners.”
“It’s just communication, and sometimes communication can be great and sometimes communication gets awry,” added the actress and Fabletics co-founder.
Hudson said that her three children are always the most important factor in her co-parenting relationships, revealing that she learned by example after her mother Goldie Hawn divorced Hudson’s father, Bill Hudson.
“I think the one thing that I learned from my mom is that no matter what you’re feeling and no matter what — when I see my friends talking s— about their ex-spouses in front of their kids, I get so upset because they don’t recognize how much that affects their child and how resentful their child will become of them,” she explained, adding, “No matter what, I never heard a bad word about my father.”
“Kids are not only incredibly intelligent, but eventually they can make their mind up themselves,” Hudson continued. “They will see with their own eyes whatever needs to be seen and they need to come to that on their own terms. It’s not our place to tell them how to feel about the other parents. I think that’s so important.”
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The How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days actress also revealed on the podcast that her exes have a solid, positive dynamic not only with her, but among one other.
“They all get along,” she said. “It’s funny and we laugh about it. I never thought my life would look like that, but it is what it is. All I care about is happy kids, and we all make that the priority.”
“Matt and I vacation together,” she added. “To me, it’s like the better friends you can be, the better everything is.”
The mom of three added that a key component to co-parenting is making sure each parent has the same rules under their roofs.
“Matt and I, we have a great way of talking to each other about Bing and instilling the same rules in the house. We find that to be really important for Bing to feel that there’s, ‘No, you’re not going to get away with anything in each other’s house. Mommy and Daddy are on the same page.’ ”
“Chris and I, we’re good,” Hudson added of the former Black Crowes singer, 52. “It’s kind of funny too: Ryder really can’t get away with anything.”
“I also see this great feeling, a warm feeling, in my kids when they hear us talking and laughing and a real connection,” she said. “We might not have been able to live together and sustain the distance, but at the end of the day, there’s real love there. When the kids feel that I think, to them, it makes them feel safe and good.”