Jenni 'JWoww' Farley Says Helping Others Made Her 'Feel Less Alone' After Son's Autism Diagnosis
Nicole "Snooki" Polizzi has also been amazing, Jenni "JWoww" Farley tells PEOPLE: "She's one of my biggest supporters"
The Jersey Shore star has joined the board of KultureCity, a nonprofit dedicated to building inclusion for people with autism. She says the organization has not only changed her son’s life by building a sensory room for him in her house, but has also become a huge part of her own support system.
“When it comes to educating myself so I feel less alone, they help me in that aspect,” she tells PEOPLE in an exclusive interview. “Every time I’m feeling down or alone, I hit up KultureCity and I’m like, ‘What can we do to make someone’s life better?’ Because it makes mine better.”
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Farley, 34, quotes her costar Mike “The Situation” Sorrentino, who is now three years sober after battling a prescription painkiller addiction: “If you’re ever having problems, help someone else with their problems.”
“That’s where giving back really has helped,” she says. “Because not only do I not feel alone anymore in my struggle, but I get a flood of messages [from families] telling me how I’ve helped them or opened their eyes or showed them things that they weren’t aware of. That’s really what it’s all about.”
Farley had previously admitted that she had experienced some loneliness when it came to her son’s well-being before his official diagnosis.
“When Greyson wasn’t hitting his marks in the world of doctors … not that he couldn’t care less, but [Roger] was like, ‘He’s perfect. He’s going to be fine. This is no big deal,’ ” she said in an October Today interview of her estranged husband Roger Mathews, whom she filed for divorce from in September after almost three years of marriage.
“In that aspect, I felt very alone because I was the only parent,” she continued. “I thought, ‘Am I bad wanting to get him help because Roger’s not concerned, so should I not be concerned?’ ”
“Coming from September when he didn’t even know his name — like, he would not respond to his name once,” she says. “It was a concern of ours because we actually thought it was his hearing, originally.”
Now, “He knows all his ABCs,” she adds of her son, who has been in early intervention therapy and sees four or five specialists on a weekly basis.
As for how she juggles her family’s needs with her busy schedule? “I really try and work only on the weekends,” Farley says. “We’re starting Jersey Shore again, and it’s one of those challenges that just, as a mom, I don’t know how [to do it], but you just have to figure out.”