Celebrity Parents Jamie Otis Recalls the Moment She Delivered Son at 17 Weeks Pregnant: 'He Was Perfectly Formed' Married at First Sight alums Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner lost their first child, son Johnathan Edward, in 2016, when Otis was four months along By Jen Juneau Jen Juneau Twitter Jen Juneau is a digital news writer for PEOPLE. A '90s teen and horror film connoisseur, she started at the brand in 2016, after a decade of working as a technical writer and then moonlighting as a journalist beginning in 2013. Originally from New Orleans, Jen grew up both in NOLA and Florida and eventually attended the University of Central Florida in Orlando (still her home base!), where she earned a bachelor's in English/technical communication, with a minor in magazine journalism. People Editorial Guidelines and Anya Leon Anya Leon Anya Leon is a Senior News Editor and the Parents Editor for PEOPLE. She's been at the brand for over 14 years in various roles across the Entertainment, Lifestyle and News teams. She has appeared on PEOPLE's podcast, PEOPLE Every Day, and covers everything from exclusive pregnancy news to every single Kardashian birth (11 and counting!). She resides in Northern Virginia with her family. People Editorial Guidelines Published on January 16, 2019 03:25 PM Share Tweet Pin Email Photo: Jamie Otis/Instagram Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner are counting their blessings despite the hardships they’ve endured. On the newest episode of their Hot Marriage Cool Parents podcast, out Wednesday, the Married at First Sight alums opened up about the barrage of emotions surrounding the 2016 loss of their first child: son Johnathan Edward, whom they lost when Otis, 32, was four months pregnant. “I’m a labor and delivery nurse, so I’ve envisioned the day of having my baby more than I ever envisioned ever getting married or anything, really,” said Otis, who shares 16-month-old daughter Henley Grace with Hehner and, since Gracie turned 1, has endured both a chemical pregnancy as well as a miscarriage. “I never, in my wildest dreams, would’ve envisioned that I would be delivering a 17-week-old baby who went immediately to be in heaven,” she revealed. “Not only did he go to heaven, but when we looked at him, he was perfectly formed — he had all 10 fingers, all 10 toes. He had a little button nose.” “He was a perfectly formed baby who just couldn’t look at us, who couldn’t cry to let us know that he needed us. He couldn’t communicate to us and we couldn’t protect him.” Want all the latest pregnancy and birth announcements, plus celebrity mom blogs? Click here to get those and more in the PEOPLE Parents newsletter. Jamie Otis Trying to “Stay Positive” After Suffering Another Miscarriage: We’ll “Make It Through” Hehner, 35, recalls the aftermath that included a period of questioning, when the couple would “look for reasons of why it happened” while they were grieving. “Even when the doctors tell you that it’s more common or it’s kind of a fluke, you don’t necessarily want to believe that,” he said. “You want to find a reason. You want to at least make sure that this wouldn’t happen again or shouldn’t happen again.” “You realize that there’s just a lot of things that are out of your control and as much as you want things to go right, you start to prepare for all situations,” Hehner explained. “It was such a dramatic turn from pregnancy and happiness.” RELATED VIDEO: Married at First Sight‘s Doug Hehner and Jamie Otis Lose Baby: Our Son Was “Too Beautiful for Earth” Despite the tragic circumstances, Otis considers the experience a “mixed blessing” due to the outpouring of support she and Hehner received following the loss of their son. “At first it was just nothing but excruciating, but then when I would have women reach out to me and share their stories … it just made me feel so much less alone and it made me feel less at fault,” she said. “I did feel at fault — even if you know in your head that, ‘No, you should not feel at fault, you did nothing wrong,’ you still wonder, ‘Did I do something wrong? Could I have done something differently?’ ” “It just felt so good to hear other women come to me and say, ‘Hey, listen, this happened to me too.’ And honestly, the best thing that I could have ever heard was a story about rainbow babies,” Otis continued. “That gave me so much hope and I was like, ‘Why do us women not share our stories with each other?’ ” Hot Marriage Cool Parents episode 4 is available now on iTunes and for Android.