The Inspiring Beauty Lessons Pink, J.Lo and More Famous Moms Are Passing on to Their Kids
Follow Your Own Definition of Beauty
Pink has long stood out for her refusal to conform to standards that she doesn't believe in, and now she's passing the torch to her 7-year-old daughter Willow (who's already started experimenting with her own bold looks).
When the musical mama was awarded the Michael Jackson Video Vanguard Award at the 2017 MTV Video Music Awards, she used her speech to share a touching story about her daughter telling her, "I'm the ugliest girl I know" and "look like a boy with long hair."
Shocked into silence, the "What About Us" singer went home and made a PowerPoint presentation of androgynous rock stars to show Willow the power of embracing your own look.
"'You’re beautiful,'" Pink recalled telling her daughter, before explaining how she's achieved success without changing her look to please others. "When people make fun of me they say I look like a boy or I’m too masculine or I’m too outspoken. Do you see me growing my hair? Do you see me changing my body? Do you see me selling out arenas all over the world?"
She ended on an empowering note, saying, "Baby girl, we don't change ... we help other people to change so they can see more kinds of beauty."
Keep It Clean
"My daughter loves makeup," Kardashian shared in a video documenting her everyday skincare and makeup routine for Vogue. "She has a little vanity in her room that my mom [Kris Jenner] gave her for Christmas."
"I let her play, and I try to keep her makeup as clean as possible," added the reality TV personality, who has long been vocal about her support of using natural, organic beauty products and recently launched her new lifestyle website called Poosh (named after Penelope) to further promote clean beauty.
Lead by Example
The Busy Tonight host has learned to be more mindful of how she speaks about other women and what words she uses to talk about herself around her daughters Birdie, 10, and Cricket, 5, recognizing that her girls are quick to absorb what she says.
"I really try to lead by example. That is something that as mothers, and just as women in general, we all need to do," Philipps told Harper's Bazaar in January. "I think a lot about the words I use to talk about my own body in my home, in front of my girls, and how I speak about other women. I've curbed commenting on other women's appearances since I became a mother 10 years ago."
"It was something I did before that made sense to me to stop doing," she continued. "We have to reset the norm, and if we can move away from women's appearances and bodies as being descriptors for their person, that can be helpful for the young women in my daughter's generation.
Your Body Is Yours
When 18-year-old Willow Smith buzzed off her signature locks in 2012, mom Jada Pinkett Smith spoke out to support the "Whip My Hair" singer's decision and shut down the mom shamers who questioned her parenting.
"The question why I would LET Willow cut her hair. First the LET must be challenged," Jada wrote on her Facebook page. "This is a world where women, girls are constantly reminded that they don’t belong to themselves; that their bodies are not their own, nor their power or self determination. I made a promise to endow my little girl with the power to always know that her body, spirit and her mind are HER domain."
Smith continued, "Willow cut her hair because her beauty, her value, her worth is not measured by the length of her hair. It’s also a statement that claims that even little girls have the RIGHT to own themselves and should not be a slave to even their mother’s deepest insecurities, hopes and desires. Even little girls should not be a slave to the preconceived ideas of what a culture believes a little girl should be. More to come. Another day."
Embrace Your Natural Look
Peppermint actress Jennifer Garner recognizes that her three children with ex-husband Ben Affleck — Violet, 13, Seraphina, 10, and Samuel, 7 — have grown up seeing her get all glammed up for events throughout her career, but she wants them to know that she feels "the happiest and most comfortable when I just look like myself," she told PEOPLE.
"My kids know two versions of me: They know the version that I see in the mirror right now that looks crazy, and it’s what they see 90 percent of the time. Other times, they see a version of me that I never saw with my mom or anything, where I’m done up, my hair’s done, my makeup is done," she explained, adding that she strives to show them that she feels most beautiful without all of that.
"I think whatever version of growing up they need to do around that, if they can come back to this in the end, we’re good to go."
When she's not sharing yoga and exercise videos or getting real about her pregnancy journeys on social media, Hilaria Baldwin is trying to help her four kids develop a positive relationship to food and body image — especially her 5-year-old daughter Carmen.
"I've even heard stuff come out of my daughter's mouth, and we never use the words skinny or fat – those are banned in my house," she told Refinery29. "As everyone says, children are a sponge, and at the beginning, you want to saturate them with as much positivity and groundedness as possible. So that when all the negativity comes in, they have a foundation in being positive."
Love Yourself First
Jennifer Lopez was raised to embrace her curves, she told Hola! "My mom and my grandmother were the ones that drilled it into me, 'This is who we are, and this is what’s beautiful.' " Now, the entertainer is focused on passing that confidence and self-love down to her 11-year-old daughter Emme.
"The only thing I really want to teach her is to love and respect herself first and to make sure she commands respect from others," she told the outlet.
"I try to get her to focus on the things that matter: being a good person, friend and daughter, being happy with herself and doing things that she loves."
Experiment with Your Look
Beauty mogul Kylie Jenner is known for changing up her look, from her frequent hair transformations to her use of lip fillers, and she wants her 14-month-old daughter Stormi to feel free to explore what makes her feel beautiful as well, inside and out.
"The beauty lesson that I want to pass on to Stormi is probably just be carefree and experiment with her look and who she wants to be," the Kylie Cosmetics founder shared in a video for Vogue Australia.
The reality star added that while beauty may be her business, it runs more than just skin deep: for her, beauty "means being yourself. Beauty to me means Stormi. I think confidence makes someone beautiful. Life is beautiful. Marriages, sunsets."
Beyoncé's daughter Blue Ivy, 7, and twins Rumi and Sur, 22 months, are bound to be inspired by the singer's empowering lyrics-turned-cultural movements ("I woke up like this, we flawless" and "Who run the world? Girls"). Beyond that, she hopes that they'll see more representation of women in positions of power, and that they'll be able to envision themselves there.
"My mother taught me the importance not just of being seen but of seeing myself. As the mother of two girls, it’s important to me that they see themselves too — in books, films, and on runways," she told Vogue for her September issue cover story in 2018.
"It’s important to me that they see themselves as CEOs, as bosses, and that they know they can write the script for their own lives — that they can speak their minds and they have no ceiling. They don’t have to be a certain type or fit into a specific category. They don’t have to be politically correct, as long as they’re authentic, respectful, compassionate, and empathetic. They can explore any religion, fall in love with any race, and love who they want to love."