The author of The Kind Mama used elimination communication to help her son

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Updated December 02, 2020 09:31 PM
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Alicia Silverstone and Bear


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Most mothers greatly anticipate—and then struggle with—getting their toddlers out of diapers. But for Alicia Silverstone and her son Bear, almost 3, the process was a much happier one.

The actress and author, whose second book, The Kind Mama, chronicles her pre and postnatal methods for raising healthy babies, utilized elimination communication: a technique in which parents, using cues from babies as young as newborns, help their children use the toilet from the start.

“Just like your baby tells you it needs to eat or it’s tired, they tell you when they need to go to the bathroom,” Silverstone tells PEOPLE. She started using the method with Bear when he was six months old.

“They give you cues, but we’re ignoring those cues. If you pay attention, they actually have a pause button and will give you enough time to get to a place that makes it comfortable for them to go. It’s amazing.”

Bear would still use diapers on occasion and at night, but quickly adapted to using the toilet as well (with help from mom or dad).

“It’s the most natural, primal thing,” says Silverstone. “That all aside, when I got into it, I was so excited because it was another way to communicate. The joy he experienced in being heard and the teamwork, it was amazing.”

Not to mention very fitting in terms of her passion for a green lifestyle. “You save tons of money on diapers, tons of time because it’s not as messy and you’re also helping the earth!”

For more from our interview with Alicia Silverstone, pick up the new issue of PEOPLE, on newsstands now

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