By peoplestaff225
Updated December 01, 2020 07:10 PM

Looks can be deceiving — and are, the majority of the time! — when it comes to paparazzi photos of Gwyneth Paltrow, husband Chris Martin, and their children Apple, 5½, and Moses, 4.

“The thing about the paparazzi, I realized, is it’s probably made me look like a really grumpy person,” the actress notes in the May issue of Harper’s Bazaar.

“Because when you get a magazine and you see someone with a scowl on her face, looking down, you’re like, ‘God, she looks like a bitch’ or ‘She looks like an unhappy old lady,'” Paltrow, 37, explains.

“But when you’re the person they’re taking a picture of, it’s like, ‘You just followed me and made my kid cry and you’re going to make money off it? You want me to look at you and smile? Are you out of your mind?'”

But away from the paparazzi, Paltrow and Martin — who fronts Coldplay — live a quiet life with their two children.

“When you’re having dinner with your kids and your husband or someone says something funny or you’re dying laughing because your 3-year-old made a fart joke, it doesn’t matter what else is going on,” she reveals. “That’s happiness.”

In order to maintain their sense of family, Paltrow has willingly sacrificed her career for the sake of the kids — most recently when she backed out of The Danish Girl, a role she was set to play alongside Nicole Kidman.

Noting that the demanding shooting schedule was taking a toll on Apple and Moses, the actress instead has been drawn to movies that accommodate her children’s needs as well.

Iron Man was heaven,” she raves. “The kids could come every day. They had their mini Jeep that they drove around the parking lot in front of my trailer.”

And while the couple of eight years keep their distance in the public eye, Paltrow admits her biggest fan will always be Martin.

“He is so great because he’s so supportive of me as an artist,” she says. “He’s always like, ‘We’ll make it work.’ I really lucked out with him. He’s deeply lovely and special.”

— Anya Leon