"Look, if you go into the bikini two weeks after, good for you, but that wasn't me," she says

Actress and fashion entrepreneur Eva Mendes isn’t letting Hollywood’s standards dictate her view on motherhood.

Mendes, appearing on the The Wendy Williams Show on Wednesday to promote her New York & Company line, opened up about her life as a new mom, naming her daughter and how she feels about the pressure on women in Hollywood to “bounce back” after having a baby.

“I feel like we can be really hard on each other,” the 41 year old said when asked about losing baby weight. “That whole term ‘bounce back’ after pregnancy … I don’t like that terminology.”

She adds, “Look, if you go into the bikini two weeks after, good for you, but that wasn’t me. I just feel like we as women need to support each other more.”

Eva Mendes The Wendy Williams Show

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One area where Mendes doesn’t lack support? Her big “crazy” Cuban family. After welcoming daughter Esmeralda Amada last year with partner, Ryan Gosling, 34, she says they’ve been a huge help, adding that she’s “never appreciated [her] family so much.”

The Training Day star also credits her family as part of the reason why she and Gosling chose to name their daughter Esmeralda.

“We love the Hunchback of Notre Dame, we loved the name, the cartoon and the novel,” Mendes shares. “It’s actually a very popular Latin name so it’s easy for my father, and certain family members that still don’t speak English, to pronounce. That was a good selling point.”

The actress adds that her family is so hands on; she doesn’t even have a nanny. Noting that she’s not “anti-nanny,” Mendes says that between her and Gosling’s families, there’s no need for one.

“It’s like a takeover. The Cubans come over and it’s like, ‘The Cubans are coming!’ It’s amazing because they take the baby, they start cooking food, the dishes are done, it’s a beautiful take over,” she explains.

Naja Rayne