Nanny or No? Celeb Parents Sound Off on Why They Have — or Have Not — Hired Help with Their Kids
Jessie James Decker, Ali Fedotowsky-Manno, Rebecca Romijn and more have been vocal about their decisions on whether to hire help with their children
JESSIE JAMES DECKER
Speaking with PEOPLE in September, Jessie James Decker revealed that she and husband Eric Decker do not have a nanny for their kids: Forrest Bradley, 5 months, Eric "Bubby" Thomas Jr., 3, and Vivianne "Vivi" Rose, 4½.
"I honestly feel like I'm the voice of all the moms," said Decker, addressing a recent incident when she received backlash after nursing Forrest while drinking a glass of wine. "I definitely feel like they get heat for certain things. I know I'm a great mother, there's not one doubt in my mind."
"I know that I take care of my babies, I know that they feel loved and they feel happy," added the singer and author of Just Jessie: My Guide to Love, Life, Family and Food, out Oct. 2. "I don't have nannies; I take care of my children."
"It's just us and the kids. Family is the priority," said the Hollywood Darlings star. "I really don't think I want to pay someone else to get to have the time with my kids. I want that time."
"Yesterday I was actually able to put on make up, get dressed in a cute outfit, and run errands that I had put on hold for months," Fedotowsky-Manno, who is also mom to 2-year-old daughter Molly Sullivan, wrote in an Instagram post.
"I think for a while I was too embarrassed to get someone to help me because I was worried about being judged for not being able to do it all myself," she admitted. "And ya know what, I'm kind of upset with myself for waiting as long as I did because not only am I a better mommy now but I feel like I have some of my sanity back."
"I just want to learn how to be a mom. I want to enjoy every single second of it since I'm going back to work," said the rapper, who bowed out of Bruno Mars' 24K Magic World Tour not long after to spend more time with her daughter.
"I can't leave my baby at night, not for one second," Cardi B explained. "A lot of people keep telling me, 'You need to find a nanny because you gotta start working soon,' and it's so hard because I want to be with my baby every second."
"I don't feel like nobody could tend [to] my baby like me," she added.
REBECCA ROMIJN AND JERRY O'CONNELL
While tackling twins is tough, Rebecca Romijn and Jerry O'Connell took on the task of parenting daughters Charlie Tamara Tulip and Dolly Rebecca Rose, now 9½, alone — without the help of a full-time nanny.
"We're each other's assistants. We pick up each other's slack. Whoever is less busy helps the busier one: 'Can you go pick up this for me?' or 'Can you book my flight?' " Romijn said in 2013.
She added of her parenting dynamic with O'Connell, "That's what real life is. Once you start paying somebody else to do the grunt work, who are you?"
MILA KUNIS AND ASHTON KUTCHER
"We just want to know our kid," said Kutcher in 2014 (the couple has since welcomed their second child, son Dimitiri Portwood, now 21 months). "We want to be the people that know what to do when the baby's crying to make the baby not cry anymore."
"We want to know, like, when she makes a little face or something, we want to be emotionally in touch with her," added the father of two. "And I think the only way to do that is by being the one who's there."
Celebrity fitness Trainer Shaun T isn't afraid to bring in a little childcare reinforcement. In August, he sang the praises of his twin sons' babysitter, sharing a photo of her reading a book to 10-month-old Sander Vaughn and Silas Rhys.
"IT TAKES A VILLAGE! We couldn't do this alone!!" Shaun T captioned the sweet tribute. "@candicesrowley is one of our extraordinary babysitters and I'll tell you this — when you have twins, you own a business and you travel like a mad person, YOU NEED HELP!"
"Oh, and it's a good [reason] to have help if you want your marriage to work too 🤣," the star, who wed Scott Blokker in 2012, added candidly. "Don't be afraid to ask for help because we all need help sometimes! ❤️❤️"
EVA MENDES AND RYAN GOSLING
A source previously told PEOPLE that as of February 2017, longtime couple Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling did not have a nanny for their girls Amada Lee, 2, and Esmeralda Amada, 4, with another saying, "You can tell that both Ryan and Eva just want to spend as much time as possible with their daughters."
In a September 2018 chat with ABC News, Mendes — who hasn't taken on an acting gig in three years — admitted balancing work and motherhood is a tough challenge.
"I'm just so obsessed with my kids — I just don't want to leave them," she said, laughing. "But I realize that I need to work. They're just still so little. But certainly I would do something if it felt right."
JENNIFER LOVE HEWITT
"We haven't ever had any of that stuff," she added of herself and husband Brian Hallisay, who welcomed son Atticus James in June 2015, "It's been really interesting to do it all ourselves."
"With the support and abilities she has to hire nannies and assistants, she's been a really, really great mom," a source told PEOPLE in February of the Lip Kit mogul, who welcomed Stormi on Feb. 1.
Added the insider, "She's incredibly doting and hands-on as a mom. She's always been very maternal."
Jenner's big sister Khloé Kardashian also had help with her now-5-month-old daughter True, but an insider told PEOPLE in May that the reality star "still spends most hours of the day with her daughter."
The source added that the new mom is "very hands-on with her baby daughter" and the help she was receiving was more in the form of "support and company" as she spent time with True and boyfriend Tristan Thompson in Cleveland.
In a July Instagram photo featuring herself sharing an embrace with daughter Batel Lu, 17 months, former adult-film star Jenna Jameson revealed that she "wouldn't trade being a stay at home mama for anything."
"I thought I would miss the fast lane of autograph signings and world travel ... but, I don't even feel an inkling of wanting more," she continued.
"My time with Batel is so precious, it's hard to put into words. We are so close and connected ... nothing could be better. I feel very lucky to be able to stay with her 24/7 and not need a nanny."