How Celebs Are Combatting Mom Guilt (Yes, Girls Nights Are Encouraged!)
SERENA WILLIAMS: COMMUNICATION IS KEY
"It's totally normal to feel like I'm not doing enough for my baby. We have all been there. I work a lot, I train, and I’m trying to be the best athlete I can be," Williams, who is mom to 11-month-old Alexis Olympia, wrote on Instagram. "However, that means although I have been with her every day of my life, I’m not around as much as I would like to be."
As for how she deals with mom guilt, the tennis champ swears by talking things over with loved ones. "I like communication best," she said. "Talking things through with my mom, my sisters, my friends let me know that my feelings are totally normal."
HODA KOTB: REMEMBER HOW MUCH YOU LOVE YOUR CAREER
For Kotb, working at Today is a dream come true — and coming to terms with that after becoming a mom to daughter Haley made mom guilt easier to deal with.
"I go to work and I sort of feel like I miss Haley, but I don't ache," Kotb told PEOPLE. "I remember my mom going to work and saying, 'I love you and I’m going to work, and when I come home I'm going to love you here.' [My parents] missed things, but it didn’t scar me — I knew they loved me," she added. "I also knew they loved what they did. We are all workers in a way — we love what we do."
PINK: USE IT AS AN OPPORTUNITY TO SHOW YOUR SUPERPOWER
"I put way too much pressure on myself, I think we all do," the superstar singer told Entertainment Tonight of parenting daughter Willow and son Jameson. "I don't know, we put that on ourselves, that is how we mom now."
The singer is turning those feelings into a positive, using those moments as an opportunity to set a good example for her children. "I want to follow my passion too and I want my kids to see what it looks like to have a mom that is a boss," she shared. "That is following her passion, that is working really hard towards her goals, but there is always a choice ... it is a balance."
GIULIANA RANCIC: PUT DOWN YOUR PHONE AT HOME
The journalist is a huge proponent of leaving your work at, well, work — a move she began implementing after welcoming son Duke. "What I do now is that when I'm at work, I'm 100 percent focused on work. I return all my emails. I don't just sit there and surf the Internet like before," she told Fashion magazine. "And when I'm home, I would focus 100 percent on Duke and put the phone away ... that way I would feel a little more of a balance."
JESSICA ALBA: DO THINGS FOR YOU, TOO
Parenting three kids — daughters Honor and Haven and newborn son Hayes — and running The Honest Company can be overwhelming, but the actress-turned-entrepreneur makes it a point to squeeze in some "me time" into her already hectic schedule. "It's worth it to recharge once a week," she told Parents Latina. "Get sleep, have a date night or a girls' night in, and drink some wine!"
JILLIAN HARRIS: ACCEPT THAT YOUR 'ENERGY' WILL PROBABLY CHANGE
For Harris, keeping a positive attitude around baby after a stressful day at the office is an extra challenging task — and adds to her feelings of guilt. "I feel like one of the things I always worried about is what kind of energy would I have around him," the Bachelorette alumna told PEOPLE of her son Leo. "I know that he senses that energy and I think, for the most part, if I’ve ever had a bad day or frustrating day or if I’m sad, I feel like I’ve been strong for him so far. I know that there’s going to be a day where I break down and he’s going to have to witness that."
SHEINELLE JONES: SURROUND YOURSELF WITH CO-WORKERS WHO ARE ALSO MOMS
The Today anchor, who is mom to twins Clara and Uche and son Kayin, shared with PEOPLE that seeing that other moms, like her co-workers, are going through the same thing is reassuring. "It makes me feel better when I come to work, because a lot of us have that mom guilt," Jones said. "We're all doing it, we’re all juggling. Right now they’re being enriched somewhere by somebody."
TIA MOWRY-HARDRICT: IT'S ALL ABOUT PRIORITIZING
"The number-one key is to prioritize," the Sister, Sister alumna and lifestyle guru — who is mom to son Cree and daughter Cairo — told VIBE. "I'm a mother and wife first because family is important to me, and a part of having a balanced life is not feeling guilty about taking care of yourself."
MINDY KALING: ASK FOR HELP
"I've had to learn to release myself from mom guilt at least a couple times a day," Kaling, who is mom to baby girl Katherine, told InStyle. "That's been a big one for me. I'm also learning to feel better about asking for help, whether it's from family or hiring help. It’s not profound, but I love my career and I don't want to make myself feel bad about pursuing both. Just cutting myself some slack has been very helpful for me."
CARRIE UNDERWOOD: REMEMBER YOU'RE NOT ALONE
She may be a critically acclaimed, record-breaking performer, but Underwood is every bit relatable as mom to son Isaiah. In an interview with the Associated Press, the country crooner opened up about her struggle with returning to work after welcoming her baby boy.
"I think mom guilt is rampant in my life," she candidly shared. "I still constantly wonder, 'Is this fair to him? Is my life fair to him?' He's my No. 1 priority," she added. "But it's just a question of how am I going to do this? I'll probably never find the answers to those questions."
DEBRA MESSING: LEAN ON YOUR GIRLFRIENDS
"Make sure you have people around you that can give you support and help, whether it's best friends, family members, or a babysitter," the Will & Grace actress, who is mom to son Roman, told POPSUGAR. "It's incredibly hard even when you don't have a job. So, when you have a full-time job on top of that, you just have to be [super] organized, and that was a hard lesson for me to learn."