June 08, 2011 09:00 AM

Courtesy Redbook

Balance may play a role in Brooke Burke‘s poise on the dance floor, but when it comes to parenting, the mother-of-four isn’t concerned.

“When I was a new mom, I used to think that life was going to be balanced, and I strived for that,” the Dancing With the Stars host, 39, tells Redbook in its July issue. “I gave up on the expectation that everything was going to be picture perfect.”

She adds: “Balance is a joke.”

That’s not to say she doesn’t make time for her fiancé, Baywatch alum David Charvet. She has two children with Charvet — Rain, 4, and Shaya, 3 — and two older kids — Neriah, 11, and Sierra, 9 — with ex-husband Garth Fisher, but Burke says the couple makes sure “to escape once a week.”

“So maybe on Sunday night, we’ll go out to dinner at a favorite Malibu restaurant,” she explained. “Or at home, we get the candles, the music — the whole deal — and we close the bedroom door.”

She continues, “We have a rule in our house that you have to knock on closed doors.”

For now, that’s a no-questions-asked policy — and she’s hoping that won’t change any time soon.

“Someday the kids might be like, ‘I smell the candles. I hear Maxwell playing,'” she says. “But thank God they’re not old enough to figure that out yet. I do not want to have to explain that one!”

For more from Brooke’s cover story in REDBOOK, go to http://www.redbookmag.com/brookeburke.

— Alison Schwartz

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