October 11, 2011 01:00 PM

Lee Clower for Parenting

Bethenny Frankel has let go of her guilt.

Whether spending time with 17-month-old Bryn Casey, her daughter with husband Jason Hoppy, or managing her SkinnyGirl empire, Frankel has learned to live in the moment with no regrets.

“I like to think I’m doing a good job. I’m there for my daughter almost all the time, as much as I can possibly be,” she tells Parenting‘s November issue.

“Sometimes it’s true that I have to travel, and I miss a night with her. When that happens I feel like I’m going to freak out.”

However, instead, Frankel, 40, views her feelings as reassurance of her strong bond with Bryn.

“I tell myself that the fact that I get so upset is yet another sign I’m a good mom,” she explains. “That’s all I really care about.”

Admitting there is no perfect balance between a career and kids, Frankel focuses on finding a solution that works both for her and her family.

“I had to be on a business trip all day Saturday. But I knew it was coming so I spent every minute of Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday with Bryn, and then all day Sunday again,” she shares. “So really, I only missed one day. I didn’t like it, but I didn’t feel guilty at all.”

Lee Clower for Parenting

In fact, adds Frankel, understanding that motherhood is far from complicated is the trick to overcoming any obstacle.

“You don’t have to do everything right — just be there,” Frankel suggests.

“Bryn’s not drinking enough milk right now, but that has nothing to do with me. It’s not like I’m a bad mom because of that.”

Or because of any mistakes made, says Frankel, adding all mothers experience a few bumps along the way.

“Sometimes I accidentally give Bryn food that’s just a little too hot,” she reveals.

“Or I’ll be turning her around during a bath, and she’ll dunk and get water in her mouth. What can you do? Just say, ‘I’m sorry!'”

Her perspective on parenthood is one she has acquired with age, crediting her dedication to her daughter a result of starting a family later in life.

“For me, I think that having Bryn later in my 30s was a good thing. I’ve had more experience and I appreciate it more,” Frankel says. “I don’t think, at 23, I’d have been the same kind of mom I am now, but I have no idea. I’m sure there are plenty of great 23-year-old mothers out there!”

At the end of the day, Frankel and Bryn are all about having a good time and making memories.

“Bryn and I throw dance parties with our iPod every single day,” she shares. “California Gurls is probably her favorite song and yesterday we had a really fun time with a tune by Panic at the Disco. We love Pink, too.”

Click here for a video of the Parenting shoot.

— Anya Leon

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