"A lot of people gave me a hard time for having a baby before getting married, but who are they to judge?" Audrina Patridge tells Momtastic

By Jen Juneau
January 12, 2017 01:15 PM
Credit: Audrina Patridge/Instagram

Audrina Patridge is a married woman now. But before she tied the knot in November, she became a mom.

“God has a plan for everyone. The baby was a surprise. And I was like, you know what? This is meant to be,” the former star of The Hills, whose daughter Kirra Max is now 6 months old, tells Momtastic.

As a result of having her first child before she said “I do” to professional BMX dirt bike rider Corey Bohan, Patridge says she has done her fair share of unwarranted-comment fielding.

“A lot of people gave me a hard time for having a baby before getting married, but who are they to judge?” continues Patridge, 31. “You always have those few haters who are going to be negative in every situation. At the end of the day nobody is perfect. You have to do what’s good for you.”

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Another thing the blogger and designer felt judged for? Having a cesarean section — even though that was the best option for delivering Kirra safely.

“I never thought that I would be judged about something like that. I had no choice; I had to have a c-section,” she says. “I would have loved to have had her naturally, but it was just impossible.”

Patridge explains, “She was bigger than we thought and she couldn’t turn. It’s really strange to me that people are so opinionated about how someone else gives birth.”

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Speaking of her c-section, the new mom says it was a lot less scary than she expected it would be.

“I was so scared. But, actually, it was so easy and practically painless,” Patridge says. “I was walking after about three days. It burned a little and it was sore, but that’s it.”

“And my scar is so small. You can’t even see it,” she continues. “Now I’m just worried about what my second will be like when we decide to have another baby, because the first one was so easy!”

The fit star says one specific postnatal activity has really taken the wheel in helping her get back into shape.

“Breastfeeding really helped. I also did squats and took Pilates. Holding Kirra was a good arm workout,” she says.

But even though she had options that helped her get back into shape, the busy mom says she felt the pressure to do so quickly after giving birth.

“When I was three months postpartum, I flew to New York City for a fitting with a designer from Pallas Couture, an Australian label. It was hard because every three weeks I was a new size,” she says. “When we did my measurements, I still had a bit of a belly, my hips were wider than they usually are, and my boobs were giant because I’m breastfeeding.”

“They designed the dress and then sent it to me a few days before my wedding,” Patridge adds. “The dress was too big and so I had to get it altered really quickly. It worked out. They did such a beautiful job.”

Though her days on The Hills are long behind her, Patridge shares that she learned some important lessons about friendship that she hopes to one day pass on to her daughter.

“Be nice to everyone. Don’t gossip. Be loyal to your friends, but let them have their space,” she says.

“Just because they have a different opinion or want to do something else doesn’t mean they’re wrong. Everyone is different. Accept people for who they are and don’t judge.”